Is it normal that i have the desire to cry most of the time?

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Lately, i feel so lonely that i have the desire to cry at any moment : watching a romantic movie, just before sleeping, listening to music, showering and even when washing dishes ... I feel so depressed although i'm trying to have fun, nothing is really working.
I have a lovely family that i adore but still i feel that i need to be loved honestly by the convenient man, and this seems to be the reason of my depression. Actually i'm 24 years old, and the last time i experienced love was at the age of 18, and it was a total fail. Since then, i got myself busy in my studies in order not to get hurt again. Now by seeing many of my friends getting engaged, a bad feeling woke up inside me, i started to wish i have a man that loves me for real, get married and have kids ... This bad feeling keeps growing and makes me want to meet new people, behave in a weird way and may push me to making bad decisions.
What i really want to know is that normal ? and whatever the question is, how can i get rid of it?

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77% Normal
Based on 31 votes (24 yes)
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  • DADNSCAL
    8 years ago

    I get the feeing that there's more to this than just loneliness. How do you feel about yourself? Until you love and appreciate yourself no one else will. Take inventory and change the things you don't like and value what you do well. Good luck.

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  • Monkeybutts
    10 years ago

    I use to cry A LOT. Let it out... Let it all out. Think about why you are crying and what hurts the most. Don't stop the tears. I think I once spent an entire year crying when I was going through puberty when I was younger. It was intense but I had to let it all out so I could move forward in life. I use to hold it in and hold it in and that why when I finally did burst, it was so much and took so long to get over. Just let it all out no matter how long it takes. Make this time useful, take a piece of scrap paper and write down all the things you want in a man. Make a list of how you want his personality to be, make a list of how you want him to look. Watch some Romantic movies and feel the Love through the film. Think about how you want your romantic life to play out. Have you seen the movies "he's not that into you" and "think like a man, act like a lady?" and have you read the book? Its "think like a man, act like a lady" and its by Steve Harvey. Not only will the movies have you laughing and make you feel better but it will give you something to think about. I am much younger then you but I still know that you are so young! It can only b a year or two years before you meet Mr.Right. Why rush it? Enjoy your time now. Enjoy who you are now! That is the only way he will come faster. He will come when your happy. He will come when your having fun. Do you really think he is going to come when you are crying and desprete? Begging for male attention on your knees? Of course not. You wouldn't even want the man of your dreams to see you like that. Have fun now, feel happy now, feel love now and that is when he will come. Don't rush it becuz it will happen. One of my doctors was 27 before she got married and lost her virginity. when I heard that story I was 17 and I wanted to cry. I thought to myself 10 years before I feel love and 10 years before I lose my virginity? I was terrified of the thought of waiting that long. Now its nearly 3 years later and I couldn't care less. I am having fun with my life now and when Mr.right finally show himself I will be ready for him. The best things in life are worth waiting for. 10 years of waiting is nothing compared to 50 or even 80 years of happiness and love with your husband. You get it?

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      10 years ago

      WAW that's the greatest answer I ever had. And it's obvious that you are a happy and confident person and I'm so happy for you. Well this post was written a year ago. At that time I thought that my happiness can only be related to the man I'm supposed to spend my life with. After about few months of crying and feeling so down I decided to get up for my life and do my best to make it as brilliant as possible. I joined charity associations, I studied harder and succeeded, I worked on my personality ... Since then I did have two stories but none of them succeeded, I didn't call them failure because I learned some precious lessons from them. The pain felt way less than it was supposed to be. And I moved on in a very confident way. Actually in order to move on I found a tip: "Just give in order to get" which means try helping people and you will get released from any kind of pain (and that just works like magic). Anyway what you just said is totally true and the proof is my own self and yours obviously and yes when day when everything is ready we will get the right persons in our lives. The ones that will be a part of them without totally changing them. Thanks again :) you made my day

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  • yabobo
    11 years ago

    I feel sorry for you, you are obviously American. First of all if you were in Germany between 1939 and 1945 you would be doing the same thing. Hitler was viewed as a savior by his countrymen. Turn off the Jersey Shore and pick up a book. You will find that throughout history there have been atrocities. For example in the 20th century (thats 1900 to 2000 for you Americans) there has been the Armenian genocide, Stalin's purge, Mao's great leap forward and so on.

    And yes, pedophiles should suffer a slow agonizing death besides that welcome to reality.

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      It's totally out of the topic but i remarqued that you talk a lot (this comment and another one) about pedophiles like you've been a victim by one of those monsters ! i'm totally sorry for you, i really hope he suffers more than what you are suffering ! and i hope you get over that and live a better life ...

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      I have no idea what are talking about, and how is that going to help me ... but thanks for passing by, and for your information i'm better now and by the way i'm not american (i don't know what obvious means to you) :)

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  • Kagean
    11 years ago

    I feel ya. Crying is my heroine and to me it's as normal as the reason for it.
    You've got heaps of good advice among the comments above, but give me a call if you still feel like you can't break free from your loneliness...

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      yeah! you are just great guys :) coming to this website was such a nice idea. Just reading all this lovely comments made me feel better especially with the fact that i couldn't tell anyone around me about those feelings. I thank you a lot ^^

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  • buttons
    11 years ago

    Awww this makes me so sad.. :c I hope you find a good man. I don't have any advice. But you seem like you deserve one. Wish you well.

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      Thnx a lot :) your sweet words make me feel relieved ^^

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  • D-Fib
    11 years ago

    You're 24. Depending on where u r from that's normal. You are still young and you should put yourself out there. If you expect love to come to you- good luck!

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      I'm working on that, it's a bit new for me but in order to make things right i have to make effort. Thnx for the answer it meant a lot :)

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  • MissyLeyneous
    11 years ago

    If you still feel like crying, it helps to just let it out. It's the body's (and the soul's) natural response.

    Just. Let. Go.

    You'll feel better afterwards.

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      yeah i feel great after crying, but just for a few hours, then the sad feeling start haunting me again especially after knowing that another one of my friends got engaged or is preparing for her wedding (by the way it happens that almost all my friends are in couples...)
      Anyway thanks a lot your answer is a bit relieving especially because i can't talk about this matter to anyone of my friends and family :) thnk u

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  • mariacachucha
    11 years ago

    get laid girl! if you dont open up at least a little bit you'll never really get the joy of life ;) go out there, get yourself really hot and go out with a girlfriend or two and simply feel the attention. Talk to a guy or two, you dont have to do anything, but please go out and be -and most importantly - feel hot! its nothing but an attitude trust me, and it will change all of that! Don't think about marriage or kids, you're twenty-f*cking-four! Plus, honestly, if you dont experience a bit, how will you know how to choose the right one anyway? ;)

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      you are totally right ! it seems like it's all about experiencing and trying new things, a thing that scared me for a long time.
      thnx

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Your completely normal. Being lonely is something that almost everyone goes through. I have been lonely myself from time to time and it is a terrible feeling. It seems like that is when all the romantic movies and music is at its most popular! Keep your head up, i'm 24 and unmarried as well, i'm sure the right guy is out there for you. I still have hope!

    *hugs*

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      yeah hope soon so i can go on with my life without that bad feeling, thnks for the lovely answer

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        11 years ago

        Np! Y wont have to dont worry, just keep your head up!

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  • SLAYERoftheWICKED
    11 years ago

    im sorry.i want to give you hugs and kisses and make you happy <333

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    • I_hope_i_am_normal
      11 years ago

      ^^ thnx so sweet of u

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