Is it normal that i have such mixed feelings about this girl?

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On a whim I finally got around to messaging this girl on facebook and crazy enough she actually responded and we met up a few times.

She was basically exactly as I remember her but I seem to be in a different place now.

For whatever reason she is kind of a cold and emotionless person who doesn't like to be touched. All this time I had somehow convinced myself that it was me who did something wrong and made her feel uncomfortable and was failing to break her out of her shell, but now I know better that some people are just different.

We met up again over the weekend and I think she is cute, and nice, and smart but at the same time I don't think that there's anything I can do to get her to open up to me. I specifically asked her why she doesn't ever do anything with her facebook and she just shrugged and said that she doesn't like to. She said she doesn't ever drink and it doesn't seem like she ever stays out late either.

There's this weird part of me that wants to save her from her own shyness, but of course I can't do that if it isn't what she wants.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    Vodka.

    Your welcome.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      She doesn't drink. I would love to take her out to the bar with me but she said she can't stand them and won't go.

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      • handsignals
        9 years ago

        a little vodka + lemmonade, no one has to know, she'll loosen up.

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        • R19
          8 years ago

          that's illegal

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    'some people are just different' No everyone is different. This is part of who she is, I think over time she'll show you her other sides. Don't rush things. Its hard for me to come out of my shell at times, it might take her time to feel more comfortable with you. Shes meeting you and talking to you :) That's a good sign. Keep being a lovely to her and see how it goes.

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    • EccentricWeird
      9 years ago

      I know a very "different" girl, myself...

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      • Aliceee93
        9 years ago

        Go on...

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  • izatar97
    9 years ago

    Some people just have a hard time opening up to people. It could be they way they are or a bad experience they had once. If you're honestly interested in her, it may be good to just stick to a casual friendship. She will probably open up to you more, and then when you know her better, you can decide if she's someone you want to pursue. Or even just slow things down.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Wouldn't call that shy - I'd just call it apathy.

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