Is it normal that i have regular doubts about the guy i'm engaged to?

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I'm engaged to a really nice guy and we've been together for almost two years. We plan to get married around two years later. Sometimes I can't wait but sometimes I think it's not a good idea and that I'm only still with him because he has become some sort of a habit.

When I picture my wedding day I find that I imagine what it would have been like if I were going to marry my old crush instead. I find that I'm confused about my feelings. I don't know if it's love or if I'm just used to having him around. I'm not sure if my fiancée is just convenient to have around or if I really love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. When I have these doubts I get put off our relationship but then when I'm upset I call him for comfort. This confuses me a lot. He has also said to me in many occasions don't stay with me for the wrong reasons. He knows I'm confused but the thought of him leaving me is too scary.

Is it normal to be so confused a about my fiancé?
Please help

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    If you have a venue booked postpone it for at least another 2 years. It doesn't matter if you're walking up the aisle with 500 guests, if you have any doubts, turn on your heels and walk out. My sister is divorced and she had doubts, her advice is always, "If you're not dancing and skipping up the aisle, then don't go there."

    We don't know your age but the brain isn't fully developed under the age of 25 so don't even think about marriage.

    Why do you want to get married anyway? To have children right away? You hardly know this guy after 2 years, leave it until you've been going out for at least 4 years - then decide if you still want to marry him.

    My mum always said, "The one you'd marry at 25 isn't the one you'd marry at 35, and the one you'd marry at 35 isn't the one you'd marry at 45." You know what? She was dead right!!!!!!

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    does you though of him make your pussy wet? if not, let him go.

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  • honestop
    13 years ago

    Don't get married with doubts

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    13 years ago

    Ok, huge problem here:

    You're on a random site asking for major relationship advice. GOOD LUCK.

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  • Smurf1011
    13 years ago

    Well, there's only one way to find out. Nobody can see into the future, life is full of these quirks and when a good guy comes along promising to be your best friend as long as you let him, I say go for it.

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