Is it normal that i have not been introduced to my boyfriend's family?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for more or less 4 years already (I can't give an exact time since we don't have an anniversary, we don't know when we became a couple). My boyfriend is 4 years younger than I am. When I was a graduating college student, he was a graduating highschool student. Our relationship didn't start off smoothly since both our mom's didn't approve, but eventually they did. In all the time we've been together, he hasn't formally introduced me to his family as his girlfriend (I'm not sure if this is a common practice where you live, but in my country it's a common practice that you bring your girlfriend/boyfriend to a family gathering and introduce him/her to your family members).

I have been to several birthday parties of his brother and his, but that is together with my friends (who happens to be his friends also), but never just me.

I remember that my 1st boyfriend officially introduced me to his family as his girlfriend via dinner at their house
with his mom, dad, sister and younger brother.

I have talked to my current boyfriend about this, and he always tells me that his family knows that I'm his girlfriend, and that he doesn't need to introduce me in that way. Plus, he says that his family doesn't talk or show their emotions to eachother, so in short, they're not a conventional family.

This has been bothering me a really long time already, and I want to know if this is normal, that I'm bothered that he hasn't formally introduced me to his family and that I have never been to any of his family gathering as his girlfriend...

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Based on 51 votes (23 yes)
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  • Alison89
    12 years ago

    I think one of the worst things you can do in a relationship is compare one action to an action in a past relationship.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I'm sure they do know!! Brothers don't miss much.

    I think he would feel silly making an announcement and if they're anything like my family they'd laugh, say, "We know!" and go back to watching the TV.

    If you want to make sure they know, you could always ask one of his family members how long they've been dating - then say you two don't have an anniversary but it's 4 years+.

    Don't stress over this, just enjoy your time together.

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  • drtywiteboy
    12 years ago

    ...........4 years and you ain't been formally introduced???? your not married yet after 4 years of dating? i would say this is very abnormal. you call his punkass out!

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Don't worry about it.
    I'm sure someday he will. Maybe he's right, what if his family doesn't even care?

    If you really want to be introduced though, really talk to him about it, on a very serious level.

    Good luck!

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