Is it normal that i have no interest in sex only fetishes?

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I am a 20 year old female and I have no interest in sex what is so ever. I do not fantasize about sex, I do not imagine myself having sex and nothing about sex turns me on. I would not say that I am asexual because I am attracted to men. I would not say that I don't have a sex drive either because I do get turned on by fetishes; vore, gore, and blood but that's it. The idea of sex does not turn me on and never has. Is anyone else like this?

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago

    While I'd love to do a character study of you and your psyche, what stages of your development into adolescense had an effect on your hormonal make-up, I don't think its possible to really do so without talking to you in person for lengthy periods and really getting to know you. Without doing that I can't pass any judgement as to whether this is normal or not. But you sound like a unique individual and I'm a big fan of individuals. Be true to yourself thats all that matters.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      i dont know. i'v had the same fetishes since i was a child. ive never had any interest in sex and, in high school when everyone else was obsessing over it i used to feel embarrassment because i knew wasnt developing the same way as them. i never wanted to talk about sex but that's all they ever talked about. i just didnt have a sex drive (or at least not for sex). my friends used to tell me that one day i would want it, but here i am, five years later, still with no desire for sex. i tried to force myelf to masterbate to sex once but i couldsn't get wet without my fetishes.

      im not embarrassed about it anymore. just confused which is why i wanted to know if anyone else was the same way.

      btw, thanks for your words at the end. are you a psychologist? just curious because you sound like one. and sorry for the baf grammer. my computer' s not working so i'm forced to tupe on my phone.

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      • Holzman67
        10 years ago

        Haha no I'm not a psychologist although I just re read my original comment and i can see how you thought that! Lol

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    • RomeoDeMontague
      10 years ago

      This was my theory on how sexuality developed! Though a lot of people do not really agree with this theory. Since most people think everyone is born set with whatever sexuality they are going to have for the rest of their lives.

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      • Holzman67
        10 years ago

        It's the great "nature vs nurture" argument

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        • RomeoDeMontague
          10 years ago

          That argument is nonsense. Its absurd anyone has ever presented it to begin with. If people in those fields are arguing this they should not be in that field. People are a lot deeper.

          Its like saying the nerd is JUST a nerd. Its not like they only fit one category. People are very complicated creatures. This would be the same as putting someone in a stereotype.

          All blacks steal and all Mexicans in the US are wetbacks. Well clearly that is bull shit. We do not all fit stereotypes. Characters on shows and tv might but people do not always fit a category. Granted some do but that is not 100%.

          We also have people who come from bad homes but they do not always turn out as bad as their family. A rapist having a son does not breed a rapist. You can not damn a child for something that happened before they were born. They did not choose to be born into that family and they did not choose who raised them.

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          • Holzman67
            10 years ago

            "we need to talk about kevin" is a great book/movie which explores this notion.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              Didn't read the book that that was a good movie :)

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Hi Keddersprincess ;-)

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    How interesting, a girl who likes vore. From what I've seen the people who like that are almost all male.

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  • Merely
    10 years ago

    I'm gonna take a wild guess and say that you prefer hard vore over soft vore?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      no. i like soft over hard, but i like both.

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      • Merely
        10 years ago

        Damnit, I guessed that because you said you like gore/blood.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          lol. ironic, but i like soft vore more.

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          • GoraIntoDesiGals
            10 years ago

            What's soft vore vs hard vore anyway? Eat but don't swallow?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              hard vore involves chewing or tearing. soft vore is just swallowing.

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    It's not particularly normal, no, though for a lot of people the arousal from their fetish or paraphilia supersedes that attained through 'normal sexual stimulation.'

    I think your having not been in a relationship may have an impact on what you find a turn-on. You may well discover, when you're actually with a man you're attracted to, in a relationship and in an intimate situation, things change. You say you masturbate a lot - don't you think if a guy you were attracted to did that for you you might be aroused and orgasm? And that might make you fantasise about attractive guys doing that?

    Or not.

    I just wouldn't rule out the possibility.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      no. i tried fantasizing about my crush in a normal sex scenerio. it didn't work. it was just annoying.

      (sorry about mt my bad grammer. i have to use mu phone brcause my computer isn't working)

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      • disthing
        10 years ago

        I mean you might find once you've actually been in a sexual scenario with your crush, you find yourself fantasising about more normal sexual situations.

        Sometimes a concrete memory can make leaps of the imagination that more powerful.

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  • NotStrangeBird
    10 years ago

    I think I'm the opposite.... almost.

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  • Siggypoo72
    10 years ago

    I'd have to say its not normal, but how badly do you want normalcy in this regard? I'm much like you, but inclusive of general sex drive too.
    Then again, most everything can be a turnon for me.
    I'd suggest that you're not hurting anyone, and so should have a clear conscience about your interests, and hope to find someone at least accepting of your interests, if not interested themselves.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      It's not so much normalcy I'm wanting. I guess I'm just curious if anyone else is this way too. I don't come across too many people who have zero interest in sex. I've never been in a relationship and I wonder if this would have any effect on that. Thanks for the response.

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      • Siggypoo72
        10 years ago

        You, Miss, may enjoy Category III(3) movies. Google the term for great results. I've been a fan for years.
        If you choose to have a relationship sometime, you may find your sexual interests to change. Alternately, you may retain a lack of sexual interest, and have a life partner with which to share companionship more. Relationships, I'm sure you know, are only a small part about sex, and a lot about bills, care taking, work, hobbies, and the daily grind alongside someone you're comfy with.
        Best wishes and fond hopes for you, dear.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Thanks, but catagoryIII films don't really sound very interesting to me. I'm not really into the whole campy thing or Asians (no offense to Asians, just not my type). I prefer to stick to my own fantasies.

          Thanks for the response!

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    clarification: you get turned on by certain fetishes but NOT the general act of penetration?

    Have you had sex before and did it suck?

    You are right though, you aren't asexual.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      No. But the idea of sex, porn, or any kind of sexual contact does not turn me on. While everyone in high school was talking about sex due to their hormonal changes and obvious interest in sex, I felt embarrassed because I did not have that interest. I was only turned on by vore and blood, and I was embarrassed by this fact because I felt like there was something wrong with me. I've made out before, just to see what it was like, and it did nothing for me. My high school friends used to tell me that, one day, I would want to have sex, still hasn't happened yet. However, I always get extremely wet when from certain fetishes.

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      • davesumba
        10 years ago

        You won't truly know until you actually have sex, and can see what really turns you on. I used to think that a vagina was the most disgusting thing ever, and looking at one was an instant turn off. Then I had sex and felt the awesomeness that is the vag, and now I can appreciate the beauty of a nice vag and it turns me on to look at em.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          But I don't want to try. They say it hurts the first time.

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          • davesumba
            10 years ago

            That's perfectly okay, and I'm glad that you realize you aren't ready for sex. I'm just saying, once you do have sex, it will completely change your view on what can turn you on. One of the key points of masturbating is imagining how it would feel if what was going on in porn is happening to you, but it's harder to do that when you don't even know what it would feel like.
            Before I ever had sex, I could only masturbate to girls dancing really sexily, and watching any kind of penetration was just disgusting and didn't turn me on whatsoever.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              I masterbate A LOT, but it's always to vore. I don't really mean to, it just kind of happens.

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      • RomeoDeMontague
        10 years ago

        That is because sex is disgusting. Not to mention very unsanitary. Humans are truly disgusting creatures in every single way.

        Also do not listen to people who say it will feel better if you try it. If you do not like something doing it over and over is not going to make you want it more. In fact that was defined as insane. So whoever tells you that is insane. Insanity is not rational.

        A sexual fetish is a sexual attraction to an object that would not normally be sexual. So that is abnormal but if you are not hurting anyone I do not see why it should matter. Though you might be interested in looking up S&M. Even without penetration torture would seem like . Normal is overrated anyways.

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