Is it normal that i have no interest in boys?

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I am 18 years old and still have no interest in dating or relationships with boys(or girls either). I think about touching and kissing and sex is gross and I am perfectly content with just being friends with everyone I meet. I don't look at guys and think they are hot. Boys never cross my mind and I have never had a crush on anyway. I don't even know what that feels like.

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Based on 113 votes (73 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    http://www.asexuality.org/en/

    What IS normal? If you get a clean bill of health from a doctor (b/c an absent sex drive could indicate a medical issue), then its just your choice. How dare anyone dictate to you what you should or should not feel sexually! That's like telling a str8 woman that she SHOULD be eating kitty cat or telling a str8 man that he SHOULD be taking Kielbasa up his bum. Don't let anyone "should" on you. The only person that "should" determine this issue is YOU.

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  • BigKahunaBurger
    13 years ago

    You might be asexual, which is just as valid and normal as any sexual orientation, or you might just not have developed any such feelings yet. It's rarer than a more physical relationship, but you might come to have a loving intellectual relationship with someone who feels the same. All that really matters is that you are content to be who you are.

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  • icanhascheezburger
    13 years ago

    You just haven't found the right person yet, someone will eventually catch your eyes, just give it some time. If you're happy being single and just staying friends with people, then I say go for it.

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  • WordWizard
    11 years ago

    You go girl!

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  • hellybum
    12 years ago

    you are mostlikely a lesbian then :) its okay. i am too, as is my mum.

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    • WordWizard
      11 years ago

      Do you have a dad?

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    • WordWizard
      11 years ago

      You may become a lesbian? Can I assume it is to be like your mom? I am awfully curious what you must look like. How is saying you are not attracted to anyone make you gay?

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  • Neophilia
    12 years ago

    ASEXUAL, maybe you are asexual

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  • Juffy
    12 years ago

    are u lesbian babe?? maybe u might be one but its just that u haven't realized yet

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    @squirrelgirl (56583) and @brianasoccer (72452):

    Its not normal and I not sure if I evem believe you too, but if its real then...I envy both of you so much!!! I try to force my self into this state for a long time, half successfully. Its the ultimate freedom.

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    • squirrelgirl
      13 years ago

      It's true. I have no reason to lie on here. Unlike Briana, I don't feel like I am missing out on anything by not being part of the dating scene. There are so many more drawbacks to being in relationships and having sex than there are benefits IMHO.

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    • brianasoccer
      13 years ago

      I wish it wasn't true and I really don't feel like it is the ultimate freedom. I do believe it makes my life less complicated but other than that it makes me feel so different from everyone else my age. No one understands that i really don't even like boys. i just wish i could fit in better and be able experience the same things kids my age experience and know what it feels like to be in love. When my friends would have crushes on guys or celebs i would try to like them too and think maybe if i pretend then i might start to feel something...it has never worked. Idk it just panics me to think that I really am different and there is something wrong with me. I don't know what to do or how to change.

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  • squirrelgirl
    13 years ago

    Don't feel bad. I'm 20 and I'm not boy-crazy either. I used to think I was a lesbian for a little while, but I realized that that's not necessarily true and I just see everyone as a friend. I'd be content to die a virgin.

    I don't think I qualify as asexual though, because I have a sex drive. I just prefer to go on dates with Rosie Palms rather than other people, if you know what I mean.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    have you gone through puberty yet?

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    • brianasoccer
      13 years ago

      Yes I have gone through puberty and that is what freaks me out because I def should be feeling some kind of feelings by now and have some interest in boys but even when i try to force myself to think someone is cute or imagine going on date it still doesn't help.

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  • TimeTrial
    13 years ago

    Nope, not normal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Go on a date with some guys and if the whole thing seems like a bother then you are unquestionably asexual.

    But no not normal. A low sex drive maybe but nothing at all?

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  • wreckd
    13 years ago

    It's common but I'm not sure if it's normal. You are still young though so it may be a phase.

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