Is it normal that i have no idea?!

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Here is the thing:

I met a girl at work about a few months ago. From the get go, she seemed semi-interested in me. And for awhile now, we have been talking online and by texting each other. Lately we have been hanging out (just at a coffee spot).

My dilemma is that while she seems interested, I DON'T want to fall onto that ''Friend's ladder'' BS. When we hang out, she seriously does I'd say 80% of the talking. I just don't wanna be that guy who she can come to JUST to talk. It seems that way right now. But then again, she has been through some personal crap lately and with moron boyfriends and she appreciates that I was there to talk about it.

But yet, I still feel that I'm gonna be thrusted into just the friend's ladder. Does anyone know how to try and get off that and go for the gusto?! Is it normal for this to happen?

Thanks guys.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Use her desire for talk as a conduit to get what you want: a relationship.

    Get her to open up where you two are alone, tell you all about herself and go in for the kill when she's weakened!

    Also: don't play the nice guy. Nice guys are destined for the friend zone.

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    • nanimeow
      13 years ago

      Completely agree with your last statement.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    You are in the place you don't want to be.

    Welcome to the friend zone.

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  • Chayce
    12 years ago

    Ok don't be the nice guy, don't be an ass either.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Well I guess it's normal. You ARE pretty weird (:

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  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    you already a nice gay friend guy sorry

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    • Bartholomew
      12 years ago

      Such a great comment. Plus the way you "grammar-d" it made it all the more funny.

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      • Tehboss
        12 years ago

        =D thank you

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  • aduusw
    13 years ago

    Dont be the nice guy... Or just ask her out.. Just tell her you are thinking of inviting her to a date

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    This line isn't a good sign honestly "and she appreciates that I was there to talk about it. " If you are the guy she likes, she will be a little more self conscious around you than other people and cares more about your opinion. Meaning, she will not want you to know things which may lower your opinion of her. If she is completely relaxed and can say anything to you, you have either hit that super friend level or she really likes you. Confusing, but this is from my own personal experience. You can get out of the super friend zone though; it has happened.

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    13 years ago

    Seriously talking to her will totally get you in

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  • rockhead
    13 years ago

    yes do not be a nice guy, maybe even say that you're busy every once in a while and set a date for another day. that'll make her want you more if she does feel something. if you want you can even mention you're talking to some other woman to see how she reacts (dont make it a big deal though) just say that you're talking with someone else and that she likes you and you kind of cool. do this just to see how she reacts if you want to. make it clear you dont want to be just friends b4 its too late

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