Is it normal that i have never masturbated, as a 24-year-old woman?

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Hello there,

I'm a woman of age 24; married, children, happy. I also have AS.
And I have never masturbated. Not once in my life; I'm just not interested.
It's not bothering me, but I just want to know how normal this is.
I never let my husband touch me 'down there' or anything, I enjoy sex but just not masturbation.

Thoughts?

Thanks guys

xx

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    Hm. First, let me say that it's perfectly fine.

    I don't, however, think that it's normal.
    I think MOST girls at some time get curious about their own body. And explore it. See how it reacts when they stimulate it. Maybe not until climax, seeing how orgasms can be hard to achieve for quite a few women.
    But stimulation of your private parts still falls under masturbation, even if you don't go all the way.

    It also seems a bit strange(again, personal opinion) that you have Anal Sex with your husband, but he's not allowed to "touch you" down there? Don't get me wrong, i simply don't understand how the one thing is okay, but the other somehow isn't?

    Also it's fine if you are generally not interested in it, but does that mean you never get horny unless your husband initiates intercourse? What do you do if you are alone while he's at work? Simply ignore the feeling until it goes away? Or is there more to it as to why you wouldn't even consider touching yourself as an option?

    As said, just my personal thoughts here, no offense meant:
    But in my eyes, during puberty, sometime curiosity should have gotten the better of you. If you developed normal and your hormone levels did as well, you should have been horny, curious, etc...the fact you never even "considered" the option of touching yourself somehow suggests to me that you were imprinted with a negative view upon self-stimulation at a younger age. Of course i may be wrong, but i'd still wonder why you'd never given in to curiosity during puberty otherwise.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Oh my God! AS stands for anal sex? No sarcasm intended - I really didn't know that.
      I meant Asperger Syndrome ha, ha!
      I've never had anal (ugh, it just grosses me out) sex!

      But nope - my parents never put me off sex, and I wasn't frightened to try masturbation - I just didn't want to.
      I don't really get horny when my hubby's at work, either.

      Mm...it just seems weird.

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      • disthing
        11 years ago

        Ha brilliant. It only stands for Anal Sex if you're a dirty minded individual like TerryVie.

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        • TerryVie
          11 years ago

          what are you trying to imply here? ^_^
          Na, i confess, guilty as charged -_-

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      • TerryVie
        11 years ago

        Ah, sorry i had that confused. I just assumed it's what you meant...to be honest, i don't know how it's "shortened" in english, i just couldn't find anything else with "AS" that would have made sense to me there. I totally didn't think of an illness...

        well, it IS an autism spectrum disorder, so that changes quite a bit, as that may well play into this then. I worked with kids with slight autistic disorders, and well, in some respects, your brain simply "ticks" different ^_^

        I see no reason why that shouldn't be the case in regard to this. While i maintain that any young lady will usually at least be curious enough about her own body to end up stimulating herself in some form(although quite possibly not to orgasm), maybe that curiosity was, for example, simply lacking in you, and what would have been an awakening sexuality with hornyness issues may well have been supressed in you and never surfaced.

        So in that case, i'd re-vote to blame AS for it :) Although i could not tell you if its normal in THAT case...i only have enough experience in cases not involving such factors :)

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Thanks so much - very informative! :)

          xx

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          • VioletTrees
            11 years ago

            I know that there definitely are women with AS who masturbate, because I know a couple. I've read that people with AS are likely to either really enjoy sex and masturbation (because of hypersensitivity) or really dislike it (for the same reason). Do you feel like it might be sensory overload?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              Maybe, because when I have sex I get really turned on - easily.
              But alone, I just don't like the idea.

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  • slings_and_arrows
    9 years ago

    OP, can I ask, what are the traits you have of Asperger's?

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  • captainawesome
    11 years ago

    It's normal for women not to admit to it. :P

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      But I just don't! I promise.

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      • captainawesome
        11 years ago

        Fair enough then. In all seriousness, there's nothing wrong with masturbating, there's nothing wrong with not masturbating.

        Statistically speaking, most people (men and women) do or have masturbated by your age. But there are some who (for whatever reason) just don't feel urges the way most people do. So statistically speaking you're out of the norm, but there's nothing truly abnormal unless it's causing marital problems or sex life problems, or problems in general.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Great reply, by the way!
          No, my husband and I have a beautiful marriage - we are so close.

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          • captainawesome
            11 years ago

            Thanks! And if that's the case, then there's nothing wrong at all!

            Besides, sex is many times better than masturbation will ever be! :P

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  • SEWnanist23
    11 years ago

    Everybody has different sexuality situations. You can label yourself any way you want to other people, but it is what you do. It is traditional to avoid any alternative sexual practices other than Hetero marital sex. Masturbation next to same gender sex was just as taboo. Example I was watching a Clint Eastwood movie called "The Gauntlet" and actress Sondra Locke protrayed a hooker that asked a corrupt cop "Does Your Wife know you Masturbate?" That's because there was still a stigma back in 1977 about that. I actually find it strange people still find it taboo. When I was 21 I was still "unsheithed" I told that to a young japanese woman and she asked me "Do You Masturbate?" I timidly replied "Uh, yeah" It was a little embarrasing but the confession had to be done. She didn't "deflower" me because she probably prefered a man with experience.

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  • drbishop
    11 years ago

    I always admired women like you. It's very normal for me :)

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    • bleach_baby
      11 years ago

      I don't see anything "admirable" about not masturbating. Bizarre comment.

      OP, have you ever had an orgasm?

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      • VioletTrees
        11 years ago

        I agree. It seems fine not to masturbate, but it's ridiculous to call it admirable.

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        • drbishop
          11 years ago

          Explanation? A'ight. Experiencing awesome feelings through your genitals was always a pair game for me. I am a guy and believe it or not I never masturbate if I am in a relationship, if not then ofc sometimes but rarely. Same with my current lady (whom I also admire) who stopped masturbating since we moved in together, because of the very same reason aforementioned. So to sum up, I admire women who rather f**k than masturbate, because her man gives much more pleasure to her than anything else. Actually I meant it only to the first part of the question. Not letting your husband touching you there is kind of strange. Cheers.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            11 years ago

            I don't want my husband touching me there...it makes me feel really awkward. I touch him though.

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            • shade_ilmaendu
              11 years ago

              Oh honey. :/ It makes me sad to see a woman so afraid of her own body. Why does it make you feel awkward? Why does it make you feel anything other than awesome?

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        I don't know - I think I had a really good orgasm shortly after I started having sex (my husband is my first relationship) and it was really nice for both of us.
        But I don't know...it's really hard to tell. I think I do have orgasms when it's really gentle, but I really just enjoy the closeness of being with another person (a guy!!! :D) as I've been with no friends and just my family for most of my life.
        Also, being with my husband is so sweet, he's one of those immensely gentle guys; kind, close and adorable.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        Yes, I have had orgasms with my husband - he's the only guy I've ever had, and I like it. Not so much for the carnal pleasure, but for closeness and affection.

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        • bleach_baby
          11 years ago

          How do you have orgasms without him stimulating your genitals? I'm not being rude just genuinely curious.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            11 years ago

            Well...I'm not sure if they are orgasms exactly, I just like being close to him (he's the only one who's ever understood my AS, aside from my parents).
            And he doesn't touch me - he just begins intercourse and that's it.

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