Is it normal that i have just pure bad luck?

Ive noticed i possibly have worse luck than anyone i know.
For one i am 18 in college and never had a girlfriend [cant even talk to girls because i always feel awkward (and i talk wierd because of it) }}
I am shorter than most people at 5'5, [not fat ]
but i have a deeper voice than anyone ive ever met.
Always dropping things or just plain bad timing (went to refund a book, but had to wait 20 minutes just for them to figure out what to do)
Got a haircut a few months ago before i lost all confidence(told my barber that i wanted only the back side trimmed, but he said to "trust him" and he trimmed the sides and front making it look like an afro [i will not cut it again - i look like shit with short hair]) (I DIDNT EVEN WANT A HAIRCUT IN THE FIRST PLACE, (my mom just took me from school to the barber and said to tell what i wanted done to my hair and she already scheduled an appointmet without telling me)

Always try to build confidence by going to gym (but cant show off because of the damn weather forcing me to wear a hoodie)
people stare at me when i walk by {!!}
Try to be friendly but just too awkward and intimidating...

[people seem to be too nice or holding back from being normal around me]

WTF is this shit???

{not depressed, just pissed at my self}

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  • Sog

    Your problem isn't bad luck, it's lack of confidence.

    Not much else to be said really.

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  • Short4Words

    I am a university drop out with no job, I'm just as short as you but with a higher voice, attractive women intimidate so much that I can't even look at them for fear of how they might judge me. I get similar reactions too, I try to be nice and smile, but I feel like everyone sees I'm a phoney, or can see I'm doing it wrong, and then I just look creepy. I have been pretty much house ridden besides going out with friends and I'm starting to lose it. Trust me, be grateful for what you have it could be worse, I know it could be much worse for me too, you have to remember that. Just ignore the small stuff and focus on what matters. Then at least, you can blame yourself for not trying.

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  • Nokiot9

    We all have problems. It just sounds like you are focusing on the negative things in your life and letting it affect your self esteem and confidence. People respond to confidence. Men and women are attracted to it. And you can't get it by buying new clothes or going to the gym or having a beautiful woman or man on your arm, (this is gonna sound stupid but its true) it comes from inside. Steel yourself. Learn not to care what people think of you. But not to the point of arrogance and apathy. Know you're attractive and others will see it too.

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  • suckonthis9

    Learn to live with it.
    Humans, have been steadily gaining height, throughout our history and pre-history.
    Our early ancestors, the Australopithecines were usually about 1.2 to 1.4 m (3 ft 10 in to 4 ft 7 in) tall (mature adult).
    The average height for a Roman soldier was 1,6

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  • ucipher8

    damn you have a mom like mines. shit its harder for you cause your so short, maybe a little easy though because your still 18. but shit I'm a few years older than you and I'm still single, i feel like theres no hope for you.

    What i can say is find comfort in something that you like and ill hope that down the line you can get some pussy here and there.

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    • suckonthis9

      Archaic.

      Please do not use the term referring to a fictitious netherworld.

      Why are you introducing Archaic religious concepts, where they do not belong?

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      • noid

        What are you talking about?

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        • suckonthis9

          I am talking about the first word that you used in your previous statement.

          Please do not use this, or other Archaic words.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers

    You mentioned you drop things constantly, have you ever been tested for Dyspraxia?

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  • oysterbay

    Can you learn some jokes, practice them so they are well delivered. If you can't do that laugh at yourself instead. Cesar millan is your height and when he high fived a tall guy he laughed and jumped up like shooting hoops. funny and lovable

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  • michaels4p5

    pissed at your self i'd be pissed at them

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  • kelili

    That's not bad luck. I have a colleague who get his young girlfriend pregnant some years ago. He had no place to go live with her and she stayed at her parent's home until she gave birth. The baby arrived 2.5months earlier and the doctor said that there was little chance of him living. He survived but his foot is twisted. The mother had a seizure when the baby was in hospital and had to be kept there. After several months in the hospitals and nights of doubts the baby was considered to be out of danger.

    Some weeks after that the father went for his check up (he has some heart disease) and had to undergo surgery in another country. During six months he did not see his new wife and his young baby. When he returned he was worse than before his surgery. He often falls ill and has to be hospitalised but doctors don't know exactly what's his problem.

    Do you still think that having no girlfriend and a bad haircut is having bad luck??

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  • ProseAthlete

    I'm sorry you're having a rough time. A lot of what you describe isn't bad luck; it's people doing shitty things like not listening to you about how you want your hair cut or not knowing what to do about a book refund. Those things aren't your fault, and they happen to everyone.

    As for girlfriends, please stop thinking of women as something vastly strange and different from men. We're not aliens, and it's kind of depressing to be treated as something entirely distinct from half of the human race. Your deep voice is a tremendous asset, by the way; any woman you talk to is going to instantly remember you. Use that and let it give you confidence. Being unforgettable isn't a bad thing. :)

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  • Fartyr

    You sound like a real sweetie. Hang in there. It could be worse; you could be a jerk. Judging by what you write you are far from a jerk. Someone will find you. The best boyfriend I had I met when we were 20. He had never had a girlfriend and was the kindest, most compassionate guy and so polite. Too bad I was a mess and a jerk and screwed it all up. Be yourself, no matter what.

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  • anti-hero

    Scribble cyphers on the library bathroom wall. Map a path from here to home. Can't quite catch em all. Calculate magnetic north, And turn the other way. Wait for the coming disaster, I could do this all day.
    Dig through the trash. Sleep on the grates. And watch for the cars, With the counterfeit Florida plates.

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