Is it normal that i have fallen in love with my best friend?

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well, last summer a funny somewhat attractive guy started working for our company for his internship. At first glance he wasnt really what i would have typically said was OMG a hot guy! But as "Half Day" started putting in more hours, he was showing this amazing work ethic that i noticed very quickly. We started talking just to get to know one another. He is very funny, very laid back, also very cute. now i am married of ten years and can't say unhappily married but we all have our issues. Now my new found Bestie and i have spent the next5 months hanging out with each other almost everyday! when not at work we would just drive,laugh, just chill and listen to music and talk. we began to know more about each other then our families knew about us! That is our thing, we don't judge each other. I've had mine, he's had his we both know!!!
now right after thanksgiving break we took a step over the line!it was fun, didn't seem to change anything for an issue to worry bout. Since then however, we have had some of the most amazing sex that either of us have ever had. He says i have done things for\with him that he never would have thought.he had expressed to me that he loves me very much on many different occasions. he knows im married but our relationship works fine cause he goes to college across the state and he comes home to work\see family & me whenever he can. also my husband works overnights so there are many nights that i have fallen asleep with my man on the phone too~
The problem is when hes not here at home and back at school! shit hits the fans. he doesn't call, text or email like he normally does. i do know that his friends\roommates and HIM get drunk every night!!! sometimes i don't hear from him for 2-4 days. It upsets me that when hes at school, i get almost NO time with him at all!!!!! very limited contact when hes there. NOT A FAN!i don't wanna lose him at all but does anyone think that this relationship could actally work out someway? i love him, he says he loves me too. Do i trust him? and just try to go with the flow or WHAT???

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  • Jweezee
    12 years ago

    Well, if karma does exist your husband will find out and divorce you and your fuck buddy will shit on your heart. Then you'll be left alone to contemplate your infidelity and poor decisions. maybe you'll realize that fuckin around on your husband while he's busting his ass working the graveyard shift to build a better life with you was a bad idea.
    But hey, you're special, you are entitled to fuck other people behind your husbands back right?

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    • mizzalb
      12 years ago

      i have thought about this many times, your right! karma is bound to come around but at some point, i was willing to take it because i have never met anyone like him before. I had no intentions of this happening with him because i wasnt looking for it. He jusy became closer to me than anyone i had ever known including some of my family.I do believe in karma and that what we are doing is screwed up and not right. but i seriously fell in love with him. When he first went back to school after summer break we still spent many hours talking, laughing and keeping in touch throughout the day. Now after winter break is different, class schedules have changed, my work goals have changed and we just arent on the same page. I also am the one that finacialy supports our family and i bust my ass as well. Yes i am special but not like you have implied. i do know!

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      • Jweezee
        12 years ago

        I'm guessing this guy is much younger than you? He's in school partying his ass off when he's there. You say he doesn't contact you when at college. I'd be willing to bet he doesn't feel quite as in love with you as he says. Don't throw your marriage away for somebody who is playing you for pussy. If he's so in love with you why doesn't he insist you leave your husband, or at least show concern he's sharing you? Why wouldn't he contact when he's at school, being that he's so smitten? I've done the college thing, and the More likely he's nailing anything with a pulse, Drunk on both freedom and grain alcohol. I'd wake up if i were you. It's not going to work out with the milf hunter. No matter how dreamy you think he is, it will end badly, one way or another.

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  • emery2100
    11 years ago

    Take it from someone who went through the same thing, my wife cheated on me with one of her exes, I caught her and we ended up getting a divorce, a week after it was finalized he left her high and dry, no place to live no nothing, not a
    Day goes by that I don't get a call txt or email
    From her saying she loves me and wants to be with me blah blah blah, the grass will always look greener on the other side, the only thing u don't see is the fall in the middle.

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    • Sunshinelolliepops
      11 years ago

      Yours has to be the best reply i have read to all of these issues!!!! I am having thoughts and done something concidered cheating with my "best friend" too but you really hit home.......It is really not worth it, and i would be like your wife too, desperate to get my husband back if he were to find out. Tho it seems like fun now, when he doesn't know i realise now it would destroy me more than anything if my husband found out and left me.....i would take it all back in a second. So thankyou for putting your story on here. Just like a light switch i have clicked, what an idiot i have been. I will cut my friend out of my life, this is a relief to discover before i destroy what i have.

      One last thing. I feel your wife probably didn't have any idea what an idiot she was or think about what she could do to her great marriage until it was too late. Have you concidered councilling, i bet this scare would make her never take you for granted again??? If you bring yourself to forgive her of course?

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  • Thewomanizer
    11 years ago

    everyone on IIN seems to fall for there best mate LOL

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  • niniozo
    12 years ago

    ok, how old is this guy? he's in school? and you've been married 10 years? do you have a brain? or is you head just full of shit? I hope your husband divorces you and your left with a dumbass of a guy who's using you for sex. I wonder what your next IIN will be.

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  • Jaakus
    12 years ago

    Im sorry to say', but DONT CHEAT on your husband in 10 years !?!?!? I mean WTF LADY really? I understand you love this guy but rather make it official than just FwB ( friends with benefits ) . Rather let your husband know you want a divorse or let the boyfriend know its over

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  • Miauwo
    12 years ago

    Lol, didn't read.

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  • debpratim.ghosh
    12 years ago

    Everytime happens with everyone

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    • mizzalb
      12 years ago

      does it?
      i never thought it would happen with me EVER!
      I wasnt looking for it but i just didnt push hard enough against my feelings since i had never felt like that before.

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  • GuessWho
    12 years ago

    "but we all have our issues"
    Sounds like the same situation either way.
    You will have to choose sooner or later.

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  • LOUi_CUDi
    12 years ago

    what about your husban. U forgot about him. If sleeping with someone eles i think is better for u to stop b4 is to late. Or divorce him. This relationship with ur friend is unacceptable beacuse ur married. I guess being married doesnt mean shit now in days.

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    Well it's not going to work out if you're sleeping with someone else, you have to choose: Either your husband, or the other guy.

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