Is it normal that i have confusing crush on my best friend?

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Hey, so I have this problem. I'm not sure I'm as straight as I thought anymore. You see, I have this totally amazing best friend who understands me completely, could perhaps be my soul mate, and is the funniest most charming creature alive... and she's a girl. And I'm a girl. I have absolutely no idea how this happened, but in the last few months several of my friends have come out of the closet, and now I feel like "hey, what if I'm bi/gay/whatever too?" I have no problem with homosexuality, but I've always been the "straight" one in my group. Now not so much?

Anyway, please help me find the courage to do something about this. It's driving me crazy, sometimes I want to kiss her, other times I just want to stay the way we are. Just friends... but lately I feel like she's been getting the hint that I'm crushing on her, and well, that makes me nervous. I'm not very straightforward. Does it also work against me that I'm a complete relationship n00b?

Yeah. Well. I don't know.

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  • PumpkinKate
    12 years ago

    Follow your heart, not the current trend.

    It's good to experiment and discover your sexuality, but if you're talking about risking your best friendship... well... I'd want to be pretty sure this was what my heart TRULY was telling me to do, and not just me thinking I should "fit in".

    If you DO truly like her, fortune favors the bold! I personally would wait for some opportunity when the two of you are alone, and super happy, and laughing together or feeling particularly close. Then just kiss her! I would say something like "Always wondered what that would be like..." and appear happy and easy-going about it. If she reacts positively, woohoo! If she reacts negatively, just apologize and say you were being playful, and reassure her that you love her as a friend :) This might open up a conversation that will be good for the two of you to have!

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      it doesnt matter i have a bf and a gf im bi and if she is strait a hell that means she is bi mybf is alex my gf is lakea she just has to follow her heart

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  • Dad
    12 years ago

    She understands you, possibly 'soul' mate, and is funny and charming.
    Is there any physical attraction at all?
    Does her bodily features appeal to you?
    Could you see yourself sleeping naked together in a bed?

    If you answered no to ANY of the above then you may not be bi or gay towards her.
    Just because its the 'in thing' on TV and in music and your other friends are doing it, that doesn't automatically mean you are that way. Maybe she's real butch? Lol.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Get drunk together and find out.

    She might already know and feel the same way.

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  • pyrokitsune1993
    12 years ago

    I have a huuuuge crush on a female friend of mine, and have admitted i would date her, BUT! Really it's not worth messing up the relationship with your friend.

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