Is it normal that i have always let my kids swear without censorship?

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In my house, swear words flow freely and openly, including with my kids. From the day they were born, my kids always heard swear words and were allowed (and, yes, encouraged!) to use them in day-to-day conversation. I have 3 girls, ages 12, 9, and 7 and they are allowed to swear freely at home in conversation. Racial words and terms are not permitted and neither is "confrontational swearing." Conversational swearing from my kids is uncensored, unrestricted, and encouraged at home at all times. I make no apologies.

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  • Sacksize
    5 years ago

    I don’t have kids but I like this approach. I think it goes hand in hand with encouraging them that they don’t have to hide things from you in a way. I would always curse behind my parents back as a kid and feel like I had to lie about it even at 25 I censor myself greatly around my parents. It kinda sucks that I feel like I have to. But now I do it out of respect for them rather than being afraid of getting in trouble. I just feel like it’s good to allow your kids to express their thoughts freely at home.

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    • FinDuMonde
      5 years ago

      Thank you, Sacksize! My approach to allowing my daughters full freedom of language and expression --including unlimited and uncensored swearing--has been very beneficial to their self-confidence, creativity, and verbal expression. They weren't just passively exposed to swear words at home in the hopes that they would pick up the words as they went along; they were actively taught and encouraged to use these words without restriction anytime they wished. For them, these words became engrained in their linguistic capabilties. My only regret is perhaps that their normal conversations weren't even more laden with swear words. I would happily do it all over again! But with this linguistic freedom at home, they were also taught discretion in that they were also taught when NOT to use swear words (school, grandma's house, etc.). I would strongly encourage ALL parents to actively teach their children to use so-called swear words as often and as early as possible. LET YOUR KIDS HAPPILY CUSS!

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        I’m just curious if you encourage nudity at home. My parents were nudists and my brothers and I went naked while home. I now am 20 and have no hang ups being nude, even in public. If it were legal (and I believe it should be) I’d hardly ever wear clothes. I think your letting (teaching) your kids to swear is awesome!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Yes we do! We have a "clothing optional" dress code in our house, especially for the kids. No one is forced to go nude, but no one is forced to wear clothes either. It's just a natural thing for us.
          Thank you for being supportive of our pro-swearing household too. Our kids feel totally verbally free because we not only always allowed them to swear but taught them the swear words and actively encouraged them to swear from the first time that they could form words. We have no regrets whatsoever about doing that and we encourage all parents to do the same for their kids.

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            That’s wonderful! Love your parenting!

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              Thank you sooo much! My gf and I (we have never been married) think the best way to raise our 3 girls is to allow them to have alot of freedom. So we allow them to have a "clothing optional" lifestyle, total freedom to swear, and when they do wear clothes they don't have any dress code or limits on how they dress or how they wear their hair. They also don't have to worry about the christian religion being shoved down their throat. In addition, they don't have to worry about doing chores at home either. We never require them to do any chores at all. For example, we never make them clean their rooms unless they want to. They rarely choose to clean their rooms, so all 3 have very messy rooms. But that's their choice. Their only job is to enjoy being kids!

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  • BlackCandle
    5 years ago

    The future is here.

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    • FinDuMonde
      5 years ago

      If by that you mean that the future involves parents allowing their kids to use swear words openly, uncensored, unrestricted, and freely, then I wholeheartedly agree! Because that's the way it SHOULD be!

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    My folks always cursed in front of my sister, and I when we were little, and my sister, and I grew up potty mouths. My cousins' parents didn't want them spending much time with us.

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    • FinDuMonde
      5 years ago

      To me, that would be the type of kid that I would want my own kids to hang out with! The more "potty mouth" they were, the better!

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Why?

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        • FinDuMonde
          5 years ago

          Because I purposely raised my 3 girls to be potty mouths too and that's the type of kid they are most comfortable with.

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Yes, but why did you raise them to be potty mouths?

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            • FinDuMonde
              5 years ago

              Simple. because I wanted to. I was also a potty mouth as a kid (still am), and I wanted my kids to be too.

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