Is it normal that i have afraid of asking for things? anything?

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Hi.
I'm an exchange student right now in South America, but I've always had this problem that I just can't ask people for things. It could be as simple as a Tic Tac or a bite of their hamburger, or when I need my dad to put more money in my bank account I get all nervous and antsy even though he's totally cool with it. And now, I'm with my host parents, and I hate having to ask to even go to the mall to buy something even though they've never said no to me and they tell me I should go out more!

I always tell myself the worst that someone can say is no but it doesn't help my anxiety. I always thought it was because when I was younger my little brother nagged my parents for everything I thought I had to make up for it, but now that I'm older it hasn't gotten better and it's really catching me up. Am I normal or cracked?

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  • Cold.2.The.Bone
    14 years ago

    I know what you mean. I fell into the habit of not asking for things when we had money problems. I think it's normal.

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  • ohdeargod
    12 years ago

    same here. Self esteem issue.

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  • DoubleUTeeEff
    12 years ago

    Same here , :c

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  • woodenbelle
    13 years ago

    it's funny that you say that because it is eerily similar to myself- as in a mirror image. I have always hated asking for anything from others-especially friends for some bazaar reason- but i went on an exchange trip to France just this past summer and i really felt it. I think it has to do with being afraid you are burdening people and that they will dislike you because of that and not associate with you or something. the truth is most people want to help you especially your host family. communication is the best thing in that situation. I know the language barrier is something of a brick wall and also telling you to just ask them is pretty stupid because it doesn't work that way- i know from experience- but you just need to know that they wont dislike you or abandon you if you ask for something. get to know them as much as possible it'll help you get along. I had a particularly difficult time with my family because i kept to myself- not to mention didn't get along with my host student but that's beside the point- there were many people who had great experiences and you can too. just by going on the trip you are expanding your boundaries and that's a big step if you get along with your family, communicate with them, and even ask for some things you're way ahead of me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    *sigh* me too..

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  • aubreybradt
    14 years ago

    i have the same problemmmmmm

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