Is it normal that i have a sort of "crush" on my professor?

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First off, I apologize if this is in the wrong section. I wasn't really sure where to put this.

Okay, I go to college, and I really like one of my professors. I'm 19 and he is 38. The thing is, I wouldn't really call it a crush - I just don't know how else to refer to it. I don't want to have sex with him or even kiss him or anything. I just want to spend a lot of time with him, talk with him, soak up everything he has to say. So the question is, is it normal to want such a thing with a professor?

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  • chole
    9 years ago

    Classic case of admiration.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    9 years ago

    Why not approach the professor and talk to him to get it out of your system? Majority of professors enjoy and like being talked to about something other than the course content. I've had this myself. With male and female professors. And I'm not bi, neither did I have a crush on them. They simply had attractive personalities. Ask him why he majored in his field, his experience, his thoughts on your major. Or just insight on whatever topic.

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    • CatchMeIfYouWanna
      9 years ago

      I would like to do that, but I can't figure out how to approach him. I've only been to a professor for office hours once, and I had a legitimate reason to speak to him.
      I actually was hanging around the school after classes today, trying to think of a question I could ask, or SOMETHING I could say, so that I could have a reason to go to his office. I couldn't come up with anything good enough, though, and so I went home.
      And I can't just ask about his field or his experience. For me, that's just not a good enough reason to visit him. He seems to be at least fairly busy most of the time, and if I don't have some pressing matter, I feel like I will be bothering him, and I don't want to do that.

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      • TrustMeImLying
        9 years ago

        Haha. I think you're thinking too much and making it a big deal.

        Him being busy, while a very valid concern, can be easily tackled by simply emailing or asking him in person "What would be a good time/day to see you during your office hours, when you aren't busy?" Depending on the professor, I might even slip in a time-frame of "for 15 minutes." But that's just me. I have not met a single professor who didn't have anything to talk about. Most students only bug them for work/course-content so someone talking casually is probably a refreshing/welcome change.

        What subject is he a professor of, if you don't mind me asking?

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        • TrustMeImLying
          9 years ago

          You can make the topic about anything, but for me, asking about a professor's field is actually a great reason to visit them, especially if you put across the impression that you're interested/curious/unsure about majoring in the same field as him. Trust me on this.

          From there on, nearly everything you ask can be made relevant: whether he moved places to pursue his degree and how easy/difficult that was, and if he didn't were there any reasons? Universities that he recommends for a bachelors/masters? Any other majors he fancied? Did he work while studying too? Was he able to have a life -and- graduate with a good GPA? "Oh so you used to kayak in college? That's great I've always been a fan of kayaking but never know of any good places around here. Blahford street? Thanks, I'll remember that. So what's it like being a professor? Are these too many questions? Do you feel like you're being interrogated? Don't worry I'll get you water for our next session. Or would you prefer coffee? Alright I'll see you later then as I need to go to my next class now kthxbye"

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          • CatchMeIfYouWanna
            9 years ago

            He is an astronomy professor. I took one class with him a couple semesters ago and loved it, (although I was almost silent in that class), and now I'm taking him again for a different astronomy class, but I'm trying to talk a little bit more (answering questions and such). Also, I AM very unsure about what I want to do for a career, and I think I may be interested in this field, so I did want to talk to him about it, but again, I'm afraid to.

            What you've said sounds like it really makes sense, though, I'll have to be brave and try it out haha. Thank you.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    That's two, today. I wonder if it's an epidemic.

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