Is it normal that i have a serious talk with myself?

I, like any young adult, face problems every once in a while. In the last 5 years or so, I stopped talking to people about my problems and my feelings in general for many reasons. First, my mother as well as some of my friends worry sick if they know that I'm having troubles or feeling bad! Seriously they will feel worse than how I feel! So, I always pretend to be fine in front of them. Second, those who are not too empathetic but still care a lot about me, mainly my siblings and the rest of my friends, will pity me and I detest being an object of ANYONE's pity. It makes me feel that I was stripped out of my clothes if you know what I mean!
Therefore, I keep all my problems and feelings to myself. This was fine up until a while ago. I started to feel really depressed and stupid ideas like hurting myself started to cross my mind. Of course I'll never hurt myself, but just having those thoughts is really disturbing. What scared the sh*t out of me though, is that recently I started to talk to myself •_• I realize that I'm doing so only after a while of a long serious chat with myself! As funny as it sounds, it makes me feel like sh*t! -_- Now, I try my best to distance myself from everyone in order not to trouble them with my crazy drama. I really hate how pathetic I am right now and I don't want to continue to be like that.
My question is: Is it normal to feel this way? I mean is what's happening to me something temporary and will go when my life gets better?

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66% Normal
Based on 38 votes (25 yes)
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  • ToTellYouTheTruth

    I think it's normal and can be one of the best tools to fuel self reliance and independence if conducted in a positive way. Although, it would appear to me the reasoning for you not confiding appears to be an underlying self worth issue. I for one can relate and also do the same with the exception its not that I don't want to bother another it's that I rather not leave myself open to lies misconceptions or skewed ideals. This with a little refining can make you the strongest and wisest of people or it can indeed drive you into the dirt. We've been heavily conditioned for social dependence and co dependence. Given the right circumstances if everyone was working through their own issues as they should be to become a full self loving reliant person no one would be "burdening" anyone and we'd have infinitely more insight and wisdom and intimate self understanding to share and enjoy with one another. Rather than need burden or depend on ome another. Best wishes to you

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  • Its normal, if you don't open up to anyone your ego will start regulating itself on a more conscious level. You'll need to motivate yourself and reaffirm yourself much more if you're not getting anything like it from other people. Its not necessarily bad, its good to be a loner for while and become emotionally independent while you figure things out.

    But if you're feeling this way then really the only thing that is going to help is opening back up to people. Your parents may worry, your siblings and friends may pity. As long as you don't let their reactions control your feelings or your plans to make self improvements then its not a problem. Unless you're bitching and always talking about yourself, that is not good. But opening up to people and sharing emotions is pretty important.

    What you are experiencing is normal for teenagers

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    • Thanks for your comment.
      I've tried to talk to them. As I have mentioned above, my mother worried sick and almost stopped eating; I heard this from my brother cause she always says she's fine. But you are right, I know I should open up more to people. I may try talking with my siblings for the time being and hopefully they won't show me any pity.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch

    I think it's normal to resolve your problems on your own. I also think that is a strength; more people should do so.

    However, I find it odd that you do not feel comfortable talking to any one of your friends or family. It's true that most people can be irritating about the problems of others, but I should think you could find at least one person to confide your troubles to without an overreaction (although I don't know how serious your problems are). This makes me think that your communication problems might come from within, rather than from those around you.

    As introverted as I am, I think I would go crazy if I didn't have a couple people to whom I could talk about everything and anything with.

    Are you sure you can't get them to be more understanding? Could you possibly say to them, "I have this problem, but don't freak out, ok?" Just try to let them know what you want or don't want from them before you don't to them. And tell the others straight up that you are not looking for pity.

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    • Thanks for your reply.
      Well, my problems are not that serious but they aren't trivial either. I moved from my family's house almost one year ago, and I have had financial problems ever since. Also my roommate isn't the best human being out there and I have no option but to live with her. My family thinks that I have enrolled in a university but the truth is I haven't although I still try hard; hopefully, soon I will. I don't go out and enjoy myself like people my age for many reasons including not having enough time or money. I know that my problems are not so uncommon but they are serious enough to stress me out.

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  • Short4Words

    Yea if you really want to talk about these things go to a professional or use a talk line. Also don't distance yourself from your friends because of that reason, they'll help keep you on a better track I think.

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  • starie

    I think it's normal.

    I tend to keep my problems to myself aswell. Mostly because i know that with time they will pass, therefore there is no point bothering anyone else with them. Also, most issues you can figure out on your own if you bother and, yes, that can be done so by "talking to yourself".

    Talking to yourself is normal as long as you are aware you're doing so (ex:if you think you're talking to a flying imp, it's probably not a good sign)I think it's a way to process information and deal with issues.

    If you're getting depressed that's probably because of the subject of your thoughts/self-talk or you're not used to keeping everything to yourself, making you feel lonley?

    If something is really bothering you, i'd just speak to a friend (not a family member), someone who isn't so personally involved in your life. It's usually easier for someone else to "shrink" you than for you to "shrink" yourself.

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  • Charmo

    I talk to myself because I'm the only one who will listen to my problems.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Nah lifes to short for serious talks.

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  • kingsleycrowne

    I think this really illustrates the dangers of bottling things up for too long.

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