Is it normal that i have a close female friend

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So I am a Sophomore in college; I'm on the bowling team and a full time student. I am in a relationship, but I also have a very close female friend. She is engaged. We are both on the team and have some classes together. She is pretty much my best friend; to answer some questions, no I never have nor will have a sexual thought about her, I see her as a sister. Anyway, people on our team tried to start crap saying how we secretly sleep together and what not (bowling team drama). While at work, coworkers asked if we're dating; school, same thing. Recently I was told it's impossible to be friends with a member of the opposite sex without having sex. So the question is, is it normal to have a really good non-sexual relation(friend)ship with a member of the opposite sex?

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  • starie
    10 years ago

    I wouldn't listen to other people if i were you. Your friendship with this person is between you and her, no one else. You shouldn't let other people's mindset distract you from your own.

    You were absolutly fine before you started listening to the comments your friends were making. You were having a nice, non-sexual friendship with a person and the only reason you're doubting it now is because of some stupid thoughts your friends have.

    I think anyone can be friends and their sex is irrelevant to the matter. The people who believe otherwise have a very poor mindset, imo. It's only when you give too much importance to other peoples opinions, that your actions start showing signs of that.

    It's stupid. One minute you can be having an innocent friendship and the next minute your mind is filled with doubts that weren't even yours to begin with: are we really just friends? does she think there's more? do i secretly think there is more? do i want more? etc, etc... --'

    Just don't do what a lot of people do: ruin a perfectly good friendship because of others.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    You know a bunch of fucking idiots. Yes it is normal to be friends with a member of the opposite sex without HAVING SEX. This might happen in some cases but not always an guarantee that something is going to happen. If you are committed to yours and her to hers you are both good. You know your boundaries. It is not impossible but it might happen in some cases. As this is a type of idealized romance. I have had mixed groups of friends where we all knew each other. It was like this for us.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    Friends are people you are attracted to (not necessarily sexually) and it's difficult for most people to not have sexual thoughts about people they are attracted to. Both guys and girls I've gotten close to I ended up dating or having sexual thoughts about them, even if it started out completely platonic.

    It's very rare, but I believe if the chemistry is right (well-balanced) two people of the opposite gender can maintain a strictly platonic relationship, especially if you think of each other as siblings.

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    Hahaha omg Jim and karen from the bowling team are totally knocking pins. Drama bbomb.

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