Is it normal that i hate working with my father?

So I sometimes work with my father. He is a contractor and does all the jobs himself with the help of a worker and sometimes me. So he really works hard and the other worker does a really good job as well. I will be honest and say that I hate doing construction, when it is clear that I am not producing at the level they are. He just tells me nicely and sometimes gets mad that I am to slow, but what can I do, I mean is not like one is good at it when you do it once a week, and sometimes you start doing some project and when you comeback they have finished the previous project and are already half-way with another one. Furthermore, I also do not like to wake up at 6:30 am and be at his house before 7 am, so that i have to help, i dont mind helping(i just dont like to wake up so early) I get a good pay, although im not happy, 80 a day from 8 to 6; and 100 from 8 to 9-10pm. when i go to work i don't really enjoy my time there, i just wish the day ended so i could go back and be home( i live with my mom). Also, one time i voluuntered to help, the people were happy with my contribution, helping harvest some wood, altought i did it for free I really enjoyed it and never had any pressure on me at all. He just pressures me a lot, at least thats how i feel. He has the right, but then he only pays me when i work. By the way he addreses me with money matters, it is clear that he hates giving me money as support(when i havent worked), so college will not be funded by him. Anyway, i have also worked at an office in my school, I really liked it, i did mailings and assisted them in whatever they did, the pay was about the same but less. So could it be that is my father, or the fact that i suck at construction. Over the summer I also experienced how i had no social life, cause i had to wake up really early and get home at around 7-8 and then shower and get my things ready for the next day, i was finished by 9-10pm and watched my fav tv show an went to sleep at 11pm. Sometimes he wanted me to work on sundays, he expected that. When i left once on a thrusday evening to go to an appointyment, he told me that I should stay home friday beacause he only needed to do little things and would doit alone. I came back on monday at 7am and he yelled b/c i didn't go on sunday( he never even told me he was going to work sunday, but argued that he did)the next day, tuesday i went straight to work and he had called the other guy and asked i i was there, he replied yes and my father was like "fuck". then he said he had no more work for me and didn't call for like three weeks. And i think he expected for me to call but i did not. he call back like 3 weeks later saying that I was immature, lazy, irresponsible, and that he sees that i would not be able to progress in life. And thats why i also hate him as well. So is it normal that I hate being at work with him

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  • howaminotmyself

    My husband use to work construction with his father. He hated working with his father, but liked the work. He doesn't currently do construction but those skills do come in handy. I love my father in-law but I could never work with him. He's the type of person who is impossible to please unless you do everything exactly as he does. And even then you'll be lucky to gain approval.

    Just be your own person. I'm sure he only wants you to succeed in life and as long as you make an honest effort I'm sure you'll get past this.

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    • Thanks, I guess he looks to push me with a good intention; but as you stated maybe he is like your father-in-law, everything has to e done to their perfection

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Nobody likes working with family it's awkward

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