Is it normal that i hate to chase?

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Is it normal that i hate to chase Girls? I´ve read a Little on the internet about that guys generally enjoy chasing Girls, enjoy when they play hard to get. Me on the other hand, well let´s just say i feel quite the opposite. I get tired of it early, and i can even get a Little mad sometimes , thinking loud something like this:

" Bitch please stop pretending like you got something more important to do, your Life basically consists of hanging with other shallow Girls that you gossip around with. I bust my ass of everyday chasing my Dreams ( i´m a very hard worker so when it comes to my future im super serious ) Im so exhausted of all my grind today that i should just go to bed, so if anyone i am the busy one here and yet i find time to write to you. "

I know not all Girls are like this, but it is going on my nerves. I get disgusted for some reason when they play difficult even though i know they dont do important things that takes their time. Problem is this mindset is slowing down my dating progress to say the least. Am i a bit girly for thinking this way or is it normal? Because i really feel like there is something wrong with me, that i dont like chasing Girls but want them to be straightforward and honest about themselves. Is this because i am so busy and dont have time for their stupid games, or am i not " man " enough? Please help me because this question has really bugged me!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    9 years ago

    Then don't chase them.

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    • Sam944
      9 years ago

      Well they wont chase me, its the mans job. Its a tough dilemma, thats why im confused and frustrated!

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      • Terence_the_viking
        9 years ago

        Then stay forever in your infinite loop of doing what you hate.

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      • (s)aint
        9 years ago

        There's normal girls out there. If I'm interested I show it. The only reason I'd be "busy" is because the guy strikes me as a bit distanced. Then I need to figure out of he would initiate contact if I stop.
        If he doesn't- I move on.

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        • Sam944
          9 years ago

          Distanced? What do you mean, if you mean he is shy or a bit off. Please consider the fact that he actually had the gut to approach you, he might not have done a A-class impression on you, but i dont Think Girls will ever understand how it is to get rejected a 100 times in a row Before you even get the chance to talk with one guy/girl.

          I dont mean that this is what you mean, but if it is. Then please understand that although it is a mans job to approach and all, it is not Always easy and men are not made of rock, although people seems to forget that :/

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          • (s)aint
            9 years ago

            Missunderstanding! Haha I meant: If I meet a guy and we hang out and we admit to liking each others company and he then starts to act dismissive towards me and wont inititate 50% of the conversations I back off.

            I wont cling to a guy if he cannot show that he wants me.

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            • Sam944
              9 years ago

              How does he show that he wants you? Grabbing your ass? Telling you his feelings, or what? Women are fucking confusing, some complain about guys being to physical and some wants them to be less physical. Excuse my language but it is really frustrating :D

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I don't like being chased. In fact I'd rather be chaste than chased, but I digress. If I act uninterested in a man who's pursuing me it's because I'm genuinely not interested in him.

    Try not to act so entitled. Stop chasing girls, and look for an independent, intelligent woman who is your equal. Look for someone who appears to be interested in you as well. Regardless, whether it's an immature girl type or an independent woman type please understand that just because you're into someone doesn't mean they're obliged to return your interest. Sorry, but no one owes you anything.

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    • Sam944
      9 years ago

      Did i ever say that im entitled to anything? No i did not, that is only what you Think. And what do you mean stop chasing, do you know what happens to a guy if he stops chasing women? Nothing, he will end up empty. A woman will never approach a man, that is just the way it is. What do you know about gettting drained out from failures? Nothing cause you dont have to do anything to get a guys attention, you pretty much got Everything on a silver platter! So dont tell me that i am acting as i am entitled to get who i want, that was not what i meant. It is pretty insulting from you assuming these things :/

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Plenty of women in the states pursue men. I'm sorry for any presumptions I might of made about whether or not you might feel entitled, but try not to take it so hard. Where exactly do you try to meet women anyways?

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        • Sam944
          9 years ago

          I try to approach them anywhere but the club, i dont drink or smoke. I know that Girls are shy and open up a bit more when they are drunk. But that is not me, im a guy who likes to chill out. Maybe that is why i´ve been unlucky, but yeah i approach casually, write alot on online dating. But thing is most of women i´ve approached that were attractive have 0 in common with me so it is difficult to connect with them.

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            Do you have any hobbies? Maybe take a class or join a meetup. Basically I'm thinking find a coed activity that you enjoy where you can meet people with whom you share common interests.

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            • Sam944
              9 years ago

              Oh have hobbies trust me, but in my specific hobby and the Place i do my hobbies, there are no Girls especially those im attracted to. And please dont asume i want some model girl ( cause i dont! ) But i wont take anything either, im a really healthy guy and i also have my standards! PS: I dont drink or smoke, or do anything pretty much that majority of people out there do. I´ve Always done my own thing, so yeah maybe that is why odds has been a Little bad :/

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