Is it normal that i hate the thought of dating my boy friends?

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I like hanging out with guys. I've always preferred being around guys. Anyway, I won't say so much about that. The problem is this: Whenever I start being friends with men, just like how I am when I start being friends with women, I would feel so comfortable that I'd joke around with them. I usually feel like I can tell my friends (new or old) anything and would get so comfortable that I never notice when they start liking me. From the moment that a new friend starts seeing me more than just a friend, my feelings for them would change immediately. Most of the guys I hang out with do not like me like they want to date me of course. But some do. And when that happens, when they start liking me, I always feel like I want to end my ties with them as soon as possible. I don't care about ending the friendship. When a friend of mine tells me that he likes me, the friendship is immediately over. No matter how close we were in the past I would just forget all of that and I would do anything possible to get away from the person.

I DON'T KNOW WHY I'M LIKE THIS. I just ALWAYS feel this way. I tried everything I can think of to not think this way. I am not a lesbian and I am not repulsed by guys. I prefer dating men since I am straight and I have never dated women. I've had relationships in the past but they weren't my friends before we started the relationship. I do not understand why I always feel so disgusted and repulsed by the thought of dating a friend. Has anyone ever felt this? Or am I just really weird?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    I understand this. I have been in the same position, being a female with a group of male friends. You do not like that you only felt feelings of friendship for them and then realizing that the "friendship" that they showed you was a lead to a romantic relationship that you did not want. Not to mention how difficult it can be to save face with someone, still be there friend even though you have had to reject them. They violated your comfort zone.

    I understand this. But it's a risk you run when you gain many friends through the opposite sex. Not everyone will have platonic feelings towards those of the opposite sex that they befriend, many will, but like I said, that's the risk you run.

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