Is it normal that i hate the things that some women post on facebook?

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The vast majority of my female friends on FB have two habits that really annoy the hell out of me. The first is that they are constantly posting "inspirational quotes" about feelings, and heartache, and a bunch of other stuff that no guy cares about. The really irritating part of this is that sometimes they'll post five or six in a row. I can't speak for everyone but I personally never read or post that crap. The second is when a girl will post something like "I feel so betrayed!" or some other such nonsense (while purposely NOT going into detail) in an obvious attempt to get people to ask what is wrong and then elicit sympathy from her Facebook friends. I find these habits extremely annoying. Anyone else feel the same?

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  • GeorgeMcBob
    12 years ago

    If any of them do the duckface in their profile pic, unfriend immediately.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    12 years ago

    That's all fine and dandy with me, but there is something that just drives me crazy! When a girl will post something like (real life example) "I don't know I can make it through this, i'm going to need a lot of support from the ones around me to deal with this terrible tragedy..." and her friend posts "what's wrong dear?" and this girl has the audacity (or stupidity) to reply "It's kind of a private issue..."

    Correct me if i'm wrong, but your facebook status is public, hence anything you post on it is public info. If it's a private issue post or message it somewhere where it is not public. Seems like a simple line of reasoning to me.

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    • sac66064
      12 years ago

      This is exactly the kind of shit i'm talking about. I've seen the exact same thing done. When someone says something like that all they want is for you to go "oh poor baby! you're such a strong and good person, he doesn't deserve you blah blah blah blah blah..." It's a crock of shit. Someone up above said that it can seem to men when women do this that they are needy and attention seeking....when what they want is for people to feel sorry for them. Hello? Did I miss something here? Isn't that practically a synonym for needy and attention seeking? I've wanted to say to my female FB friends so many times to stop their whining but I don't want to be rude. That's why I put it up here.

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      • Saycheese
        12 years ago

        I really don't blame you for getting a headache from all that shit. I would suggest you just deleting your facebook, unless there really is an actual reason you need it. You could always make them aquaintences on there too which I believe makes it so you don't see their statues. But I'm not a facebook genius here. lol

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        12 years ago

        eh, I guess facebook is essentially a giant public forum. So they can say what they want, i'll just go on skipping past any of those stories with out any comment.

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    • Captain_Kegstand
      12 years ago

      HA! after posting this I found several very similar example/screen shots all over the internet.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    Hahahaha.
    I have a shit ton of men that litter my facebook with romantic-rejection "I love her and she left me (now ask who her is)" bull-shit. It's totally not exclusive to women.

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    • sac66064
      12 years ago

      no, but its mostly women.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        12 years ago

        Not going to argue on that one.

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  • Frosties
    12 years ago

    Men and women are different. Both genders do things that annoy the other. What matters is how we deal with it. The best way, I think, is understanding our differences. If you listen to the way women talk with each other, they often want empathy. Men talk in a more practical problem-solving way.

    When women have a problem, they want people to feel sorry for them. When men have a problem, they canvas opinion.

    To men, women wanting empathy/sympathy can look attention-seeking and needy. To women, men telling them how to fix their problems can look arrogant and like they are missing the point of the conversation.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Exactly. You win the internet today! :D

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      • Frosties
        12 years ago

        Oh no! Where am I going to put it all? :D

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        • [Old Memory]
          12 years ago

          You're grrrrreat! I'm sure you'll have somewhere! :D

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    • sac66064
      12 years ago

      Wanting empathy and for people to feel sorry for them is synonymous with being attention seeking and needy in my mind. I just don't understand....when men offer a woman frank advice on how to deal with the problem we come off as arrogant. Ok fine, I suppose that I could see how that could be taken that way even though that's not the case. We are trying to help as best we can...but from what you said women don't actually want help to solve the problem they just want you to say things to them that point out their strong points and boost their down mood. You know what guys call that? Complement fishing. Trying to snag a complement then reel it in. Why is it that women need affirmation to boost their mood? If they were really as strong as all those empathetic comments they receive would lead to believe they wouldn't need to do it. Maybe it's upbringing...men are told to stop whining and man up. women aren't told that...I don't know...like I said I don't get it.

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      • Frosties
        12 years ago

        Absolutely. But you're interpreting through male eyes. You're seeing it the way men would see it. You're judging it how you'd judge that person if she was a man who had the same logic and thought process as you.

        But she's not. She's a woman. Women see things differently. They have different priorities. They instinctively feel things that men struggle to understand. Both genders probably see their own viewpoint as best. Neither are best. We need both. We've evolved with both. As such, the best thing you can do with the opposite gender is learn from them, rather than judge them and tell them they are wrong just for being who they are.

        This goes for both men and women. Communicate, listen, understand.

        We *are* different and we shouldn't pretend to be the same or judge each other like we're the same. Nor should we judge the opposite gender as a poor version of our own. Both genders can find reason enough to do that, but it misses the key point. We're different and you can't judge someone different by your own rules.

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        • Saycheese
          12 years ago

          I feel kind of odd because I'm a girl and I get rather sick of them complaining too.

          I guess being raised with just brothers can effect it though. Plus I've made myself want to solve my own problems truthfully since I had to do it earlier in my life just to do with the fact I have a disorder and other things. Also like I said before I feel empathy for others more than myself, not saying I don't care about myself though.

          I don't want pity from other that much at all either. I'm just different I guess.

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          • Frosties
            12 years ago

            I'm the same, I guess. I'm a boy but I get annoyed by the seeming autism my own gender show whenever feelings are involved. It's like someone chopped that part out of their brain and they are back in their cave, beating their chests.

            Mind you, I was raised in a family where my relationships with the females (grandmother, aunt, sister, mother) was most important.

            I did roll my eyes at some of the stuff people put on Facebook as well, though. I got the feeling people thought "I know. I'll update my status. Okay, what can I say?" rather than "Something interesting has just happened. I'll tell people."

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            • Saycheese
              12 years ago

              Yep no worries on that. Both genders are just rather different. I still act like a woman for sure can't say I'm any better than the rest of my gender, just don't get them at times. :)

              I just find the gender differences rather fasinating though.

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          • Saycheese
            12 years ago

            But also to add onto it. I'm not saying I don't complain ever it is human nature but about feeling on fb is how I should of put it. Plus I did do it several years ago but had stopped just because I thought it was dumb and still do. :\

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    And that's the reason we post these things. If you hadn't realised already, women like emotions and empathy.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    12 years ago

    Yup I hate that too and one reason is that if as a guy I tried to be an attention whore it doesn't work and people either ignore you, or call you a whiner but when it's a girl she'll get plenty of attention from guys. I left fb totally.

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  • cadence
    12 years ago

    I'm a girl but I TOTALLY agree

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  • Saycheese
    12 years ago

    I understand what you mean. There are reasons I deleted my facebook at the moment. There is this girl on there that constantly posts photos with sayings also, like love photos. But it's both genders that put that bullshit. I'm tired of the drama on that site.

    But I truely every once in a while post inspirational quotes just because they can be peaceful.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Women are known to do this too much. I mean, sure, I have seen about two men do this out of four hundred people on my previous friends list, but atleast 250+ females couldn't shut up about it. The annoying thing is, it's so obvious that they aren't in hearache, they just want to be seen in heartache, they're attention-whores.

    The one and only person I considered a friend had a girlfriend that constantly done this, and my God I hate her so much. She just won't shut up. They have both cheated on eachother, and she wouldn't say she was wrong for doing it, but expected him to say he was wrong for doing it. He took responsibility for what he done, she didn't. Then there was a time when she actually tried to flirt with me, asking me if she could see me naked. Then after all of this shit of her being the bitchy one in the relationship, she's the one always saying "I feel betrayed" "Why is love so difficult" "I have a tough life". So many times I actually just went to her and said "Shut. The. Fuck. Up. Your life isn't that bad, you're not abused, you're the one that causes most of the trouble in the relationship, yet you're they one saying all this crap on Facebook like you're the victim?"

    It's one of the main reason why I deleted everyone but about seven people on Facebook, because the majority of them were female, and the majority of them were always like this.

    Females are by far the most annoying ones when it comes to Facebook, and I know I'll get thumbs down on that statement alone, maybe because I'm sure some of them would be people that do this themselves.

    Yes, it's normal this happens, and it's so annoying that it's actually normal to happen.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      12 years ago

      I'd like to clarify here.

      I like you and I really like reading your arguments. You whoop ass at debates and I think you should probably work on not coming off as so harsh, fucking swords raised and all. But other than that, I agree with 95% of your argument, the other 5% being my own personal moral values but I try not to judge others based off of my relatively outdated moral values.

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      • Saycheese
        12 years ago

        Agree!

        I hope you never think that I'm trying to seek attention from you. Just like your answers...

        I just some reason feel like you think that, when I really shouldn't care since this is just the net.

        Just thought I would clarify that to you.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          12 years ago

          No, I don't think that.
          In fact, I don't have any real thoughts regarding the subject at all.

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          • Saycheese
            12 years ago

            Ok, cool. :)

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      12 years ago

      Eh, I know what you're talking about. But, like I said above, I have plenty of guys that do this shit too but you're point is well received, it is usually women. We could go into the whole psychological/sociological factors concerning the differences between male/female expression of opinion/emotion but I'm pretty fuckin' baked right now, so I'll say this.

      "Got my new tires! I've got traction now, guys! By the time I pulled up to the shop, the steel bands on my tires were showing. Yup, got the money's worth outta those..."

      That was my last status update. I think the most emo I ever got was "Fuck, my day sucked, I had a blowout, I can't wait to get my tax return.". I don't complain about friends or relationships on Facebook. That's just childish. But I'm sure you more than understand that not all women are whiny twats. Just figured I'd make another vain attempt to remove myself from the list.

      But still, I'm pretty baked.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        Yeah, but what exactly are those men doing other than saying things that they have done that day? They're most likely not overexagurating (spelled that wrong, I know) to get a response from everyone like "Aw, I hope you're ok", etc.

        Not all women do this, but a lot of them do. Perhaps they grow out of it? I haven't had many grown adults on Facebook, but the females ones I have had that are that old usually don't do it. Males have their fair share of doucheyness on Facebook aswell, so don't think I'm just jumping at the chance to bash women here.

        Don't worry, you have never striked me as the type to be like the girls that do this stuff on Facebook.

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        • BluntsRolled
          12 years ago

          You spelled it wrong because its two separate words.
          Over, exaggerating.

          I'm not usually a grammar Nazi, so you'll have to excuse me.

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago

            Well, even if I didn't link the two together, I would of still spelled it wrong.

            And allow me to return the favour. You spelled "It's" wrong. Now we can both be grammar nazis.

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            • BluntsRolled
              12 years ago

              Touche'

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        • sac66064
          12 years ago

          i'm 30. all my female FB friebds are around the same age. they still do it.

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  • iWillAskTheQuestionsHere
    12 years ago

    That's facebook for you. I'm annoyed like hell by that. This one girl got mad at me when I posted on her status. She's always saying pointless emo crap updated like every 5 minutes. I told her on one of her emo status "you spelled I'm a dumb attention whore with no life wrong" She got mad but seriously, do you ever log off?

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