Is it normal that i hate pregnant couples that want a boy?

60% Normal
31 Comments

You know the ones that say that "Yeah... We don't care what gender our baby will be. We're going to love it no matter what. But it would really be GREAT if we could have a boy!!!"

Because I suppose that males are seen as the "protector, provider" of the family? I really hate gender roles, so I guess that's why I'm so hostile and resentful of these couples. Especially the women who don't stand up for themselves. Oh dear God. "Yeah, we know it takes both genders to make the world go round, but I hope I'm not the one to have a girl!!!"

It just reminds me of how thousands of baby girls in China are given up for adoption every year. Then they have to grow up knowing that their parents didn't want to raise them because they weren't born the right gender. It kills me.

Voting Results
60% Normal
Based on 65 votes (39 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 31 )
  • TerryVie
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal.

    While most people have a personal "preference" of what gender they would like the child to have in theory, voicing it like that seems wrong.

    It would be great if it is a boy more or less implies It would NOT be so great if it is a girl.

    Expecting a child, you should put aside those "preferences" and just be glad for the new life that grows inside you.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    4
    4
  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    I don't get it. Are you saying all expecting parents see males as the protector/provider and females inferior? Not that they might just simply want a son?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    3
    3
      -
    • thejabberwocky
      12 years ago

      Well I want to know just that. My question wants to know why is it that people want a son in the first place.

      They're not openly going to say that it is because they want a protector/provider and that they view females as inferior. I've noticed it's quite subconscious. But usually, that's why people want sons. Especially for first borns. They'll say things like "Boys are stronger, and less emotional. You don't have to deal with all that drama girls have. And if we have a daughter later, he'll be able to take care of her and protect her." Something along those lines.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • DannyKanes
        12 years ago

        Hmm, I'm not sure about that one. I want a son and a daughter, for no other reason that I simply want a son and a daughter. But I really hope my first born is a girl :)

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        2
        2
      • disthing
        12 years ago

        Your question was "Is it normal that I hate pregnant couples that want a boy", NOT "IIN I don't know why pregnant couples want boys".

        I don't think it's normal to hate a couple just because they have a preference. Some couples want a daughter, do you hate them too?

        I understand resenting those people who maintain 'traditional' ideas that imply daughters and females in general are inferior though. That's fair.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        1
        1
  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I find it shocking knowing that there are women out there getting abortions simply because the baby is the 'wrong' gender...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
  • kellstar79
    12 years ago

    I always wanted two kids, one of each and I always wanted a girl first and a boy second. I was really lucky as that's what I got. I would've been happy with whatever I had though. My brother is older than me and used to pick on me so I wanted a girl first so it wouldn't hopefully be like that with mine. I'm blessed. I had a friend who was pregnant and said if she had a girl she would 'put it back in', I was horrified! She ended up with a boy and she was stoked, she said it was because they are more fun and she was a tomboy so it kinda makes sense for her but for the reason you said, I've never heard anyone I know say that

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • Megid
    12 years ago

    Males carry the family name.
    I am the last male in my family tree that has not already had children. We have very few and and the others all had girls and quit. At a family reunion, I was surrounded and told I need to think about having a boy to keep the family going.

    Personally, I could care less.
    I would enjoy having a child regardless of it's gender.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    I want a boy as my first born. I will immediately stress to him the importance of physical health and well being while at the same time providing him with a good education, or at least supplementing public school. I will teach him chivalry and patriotic values of honor and valor. I will have him do martial arts, boxing, or some other form of fighting techniques in order to build his physique. He shall be what an ideal Marine would be.

    So when my daughter comes along he can ensure that she doesn't get laid until she is married, and the man she marries will be of equal of greater awesomeness than my son.

    Call me an idealist and I will say that you are correct.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • thejabberwocky
      12 years ago

      No, you're not an idealist. You're an ignorant punk who believes in gender roles.

      Because of you, any daughter you may have will grow up thinking she has to be a certain way to be feminine and loved. "My little princess".

      Because of you, any son you may have will grow up thinking he needs to "man up" and be strong to receive respect and love from his family.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • NeuroNeptunian
        12 years ago

        ^This is what happens when you take the internet WAAAAY too seriously.

        My gender role reinforcing ass, me being a women and going to college, working outside of the home and taking control of my body by use of birth control so I may delay childbirth until I am in a good financial situation. Why don't you spank me for my naughtiness :(

        I called myself an idealist because I understand that the big brother defending the little sister stereotype is to be treated just as that, an ideal. Not a practice to put into works but an ideal. I'll say it again: an IDEAL.

        Speaking of ignorant punks, when you edit to throw in a few more self-empowering insults my way, remember to delete the html paragraph breaks. But you tried, pat on the back for you! Yaaay!

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        1
        1
      • NeuroNeptunian
        12 years ago

        Now before I start editing in paragraphs about the irony of you calling me an ignorant punk being that you seem to lack understanding of what it means when a person points out their thoughts as idealistic, I'll bid you good day and I hope you feel empowered now :)

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • thejabberwocky
          12 years ago

          That's just the problem. When parents start setting "ideals" for kids based on gender, those children are then restricted from possibly being something they want. They're now bound to something they think is "right".

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • NeuroNeptunian
            12 years ago

            That is the negative side effect of thinking that an ideal is something one should put into practice. These are parents that do not see their thoughts as ideals but rather what it HAS to be. Try to ask any of these parents if they see themselves as idealistic in any way for putting such gender role dependent teachings into practice... I can almost guarentee you that the majority of them don't see themselves as idealists but genuinely right.

            I identify my thoughts as ideals and they are just that, IDEALS. I'd like to have a son that is protective of his younger sister and has the physical prowess to pull that off, but that is an IDEAL, and simply an ideal. The reality is, it is the job of my husband and myself to ensure that my daughter makes proper decisions regarding her health and happiness and if I were to ignore that fact then I would truly be worthy of being called an "ignorant punk".

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
              -
            • thejabberwocky
              12 years ago

              As long as you do not make your children feel that pressure, or the inner-disappointment you have when they don't achieve that ideal. Because ideals often play a bigger part in our lives than we like to think.

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
  • Koda
    12 years ago

    I have to admit that even though, ideally, I'd like an even amount of male and female children, I've always wanted my firstborn to be male. I don't know why, but I'd really rather have it that way. I just really think male eldest children are awesome.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1
  • KraziiSaby
    12 years ago

    My two aunts got pregnant (practically) at the same time..one wanted a boy the other wanted a girl..only because there was no boys on ones side of family n no girls on the other..they got what they wanted..I never saw a problem with them wanting a certain gender but I get where your coming from...china just needs to accept their children's gender but you can hate them if you want but you might be saying the same thing one day...you know..wanting a boy

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • penguin1
    12 years ago

    What's so bad about having girls? It's not like girls are inferior. They are also needed to make the world work. I think it's mostly just arrogant people that want the name to live on. I understand that. But as long as the bloodline continues with your *gasp!* daughter, that should be enough.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • VsegdaTemnata
    12 years ago

    I'd want a boy in the hopes of him looking like a mini-me of my husband. That'd be cute. That's the only reason.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Wambo37
    12 years ago

    no...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • RapidRat
    12 years ago

    Im an 18 year old male, and i would love to have two kids, a male and a female. But if i could choose to have just one child and what gender it would be, i would love to have a girl, becuase i'd love to be like "Daddys little girl" thing :3
    I'd just like to add my opinion, of what i would prefer :3 ,and i also respect everybody else's opinions/preferances.. just so people know haha :D

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    I'll be one of those just because I think a boy would be more fun to raise than a girl. And he will be the next Aaron Rodgers.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • thejabberwocky
      12 years ago

      Why do you think it would be more fun to raise them though?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        Well all I'm saying is regardless of whether its a boy or a girl, he or she is a living thing growing inside.
        As long as the baby is healthy and normal then keep it, let it have a life... That's just my opinion.

        I don't know about the US but here in Britain its illegal to abort after 24 weeks.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        1
        1
          -
        • penguin1
          12 years ago

          I would have given a thumbs up to this comment again and again and again if I could have. It's the best one here!

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
      • lc1988
        12 years ago

        Girls are just more complicated especially in the teen years. Hell I was one once.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        -2
        -2
  • partofeveryone
    12 years ago

    Yeah! Lets just assume EVERYONE is a bigot exept for ME!! That ALWAYS works!!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1
  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I wanted a boy coz I hate pink and all girlie things!

    Simple reason - and I had a boy. Then never again!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1