Is it normal that i hate "new parents"?

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I am 25 and all my friends are starting to have children. I don't like kids that much, but I do want to have kids someday (maybe in 10 years). I am more focused on my career right now to be honest.

I knew that some of my friends would start hanging out less with me because of their new family. I don't judge them for that. But there are certain behaviors that I am seeing lately in my friends. Attitudes that I now find quite disturbing.

The main issue is that these "new parents" act as if they were superior to people without kids. They don't say it directly, but they imply that they are more sucessful in life and that they are in a higher moral ground.

For example, my friends always pity me because I don't have kids or even a girlfriend. I did have more time to study and be a better professional because of that, but it is as if they didn't care. Personally, I don't even think having a kid would make more "sucessful" in life.

New parents apparently become more inconsiderate as well. They seem to think that they can bring their babies anywhere... and well, I don't like little kids in restaurants, social events or long activities. I think it is bad for the kids and for the people around. But my friends always try to have their way and get their kids to be present everywhere. Recently, it was my best friend's wedding... and many of my friends took their kids, even though it was clearly not the right place for them (the bride didn't want kids at her wedding). Their excuse was that "we are their friends" and that they would understand...

And finally... they think that everyone loves kids, and if you don't, you are sick. I don't like checking 1000 pics of a baby or play with a kid or even hold it. But well, my friends make me go through all those things, even though I am more than uncomfortable in those situations.

Okay, I just wanted to complain a little and ask if I this is normal. I would like some advice, should I get new friends or just expect that they will get over this "phase" someday?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    10 years ago

    I am not against little kids being around at events or restaurants that aren't expensive. They have as much of a right to be there as any adult

    HOWEVER, I have found myself at odds with their "I am a parent, that's the ultimate accomplishment" mentality. I see crack whores making babies down the street all of the time. Just about anyone can do it. Getting an education, a career and so on is an accomplishment. Making a baby is something pretty much anyone can do, even without meaning to.

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  • SkullsNBones
    10 years ago

    No offence, but the person who took their child no a wedding where the bride didn't want children was being an inconsiderate bitch, it's the couple's day, not theirs.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    I don't see my son as an achievement i see him as a gaming buddy.

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