Is it normal that i hate my siblings? more than just sibling rivalry?

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I hate my siblings. I'm young, and I'm still with my parents and I'm the oldest of four. I get into a lot of sh!t with my parents; stealing, lying, cheating, etc. So I have no good relationship with them. I try, and I can tell that they try too, but at the end of the day, they don't trust me. So, I guess I have a lot of feelings of anger and disappointment in myself. But basically, whenever my younger siblings and I fight, which we do often, I try to stay so calm it's almost eerie. They're practically in tears, and I stay perfectly calm. Until they flat out point out one of my many flaws. The types of things I'm used to hearing only from my parents. Then, I get so upset and all this anger just comes out. It's probably really scary to witness, I stay really calm, and then I just blow up. Every time I fight with them I say awful things, and in the end I just end up feeling awful about myself because they don't have real flaws like I do. I've cut myself a few times, nothing deep, and when I do, I feel better, like I've punished myself for being such an awful person. I know this isn't normal, but I really need help.

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  • asdfghjklkjhgfdsa
    11 years ago

    I wish I could offer you advice, but it's the opposite with my sibling. I love her to pieces and I'm moving in with her! But, I do have some advice.

    I'm young too, and I hurt myself. But you can't let them get to you. Next time you pick up that knife, think about it. All you're doing is hurting yourself, harming yourself when you didn't cause this. I know this won't be as much as a solice, but if you message me on here I'll give you my skype details and we can talk on there when it gets to you.

    Nadia. x

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    I remember what it's like to hate your siblings. There was this one time when I was younger that I honestly felt like I wanted my older brother to die. At the time, I really did feel like it would have made me happier if he wasn't around. I am glad he didn't though, and now that we are older we have a better relationship (albeit very distanced).

    I am sure I hated (and I DO mean VEHEMENTLY HATED) my older sister as well at times. Now that I'm older, I haven't talked to her for several months. It was many months before I talked to her before then too. We have a VERY distanced relationship now, and I miss her. I don't even know where she lives anymore. Hope she's doing alright.

    Just try and work on these negative characteristics of yours if you can. Try to better yourself. Set goals and follow through with them. Find some kind of outlet for your anger. If you are musically inclined, try and pick up an instrument or two and learn how to play it. Do some kind of exercise to help relieve stress and make you feel better about yourself. Ride a bicycle or a skateboard or something.

    Also, try not to hurt yourself. There are better ways to go about solving your problems, even though that may seem like a good way at first. Find someone you can talk to about these matters such as a trusted friend/relative or a counselor.

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  • Servatis
    11 years ago

    Stop focusing on the guilt. Stop focusing on the problems and the words, focus on the resolution. Look past the problems and find your answers. Remain calm, even when those terrible words shine light on your flaws.

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