Is it normal that i hate my mum because she's dating a married man?

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My father has been a violent man. He used to beat me up when I was younger. He will beat up my mum occasionally but sometimes, he will shower her with love. He's just weird. My mum started dating a married man six months ago. I hated him as he's married and he's just tired facing his own wife. He sweet talks my mum and make her feel very happy. My mum's been out every single day in the morning at 7am and will only be back home at 10pm. When she's back, she will be talking on the phone with this man. In the past, she used to care about me and will call to ask where I am every day. Now, she has totally ignored my presence, no calls or concern at all and some days, I won't even get to see her if I slept early. I hated it totally. My sisters were supportive of my mother's relationship and they said that it's my dad who did not love my mum enough so it's alright for her to seek love from a man who truly loves her. But I feel that if this man can get sick of his wife, why not my mum? The day will come one day definitely. I hated my mum and I hated this man who has caused so much misery in the family. I can't stand it sometimes and I told my sisters that I want to tell my dad about it. They said that I am not a part of the family and they outcast me. I feel so miserable now. I did not tell my dad. I am feeling so terrible deep inside. I hate my family and I wish they were all dead but I hated my mum the most for causing me to go through such misery. Is it normal to feel this way?

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  • Inspector019
    12 years ago

    Take comfort in knowing that one day you will be able to get out of your current situation and make a better life for yourself (one you can be proud of).

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    • Lollie
      12 years ago

      Thank you. Your words make me feel much better.

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      • Inspector019
        12 years ago

        I wish you the best.... you can't do much about your current situation, but you can do something great with your life. Dream big and make it happen! ;)

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      • Crudhouse
        12 years ago

        Feel so bad for you. It must be quite horrid to deal with that all the time. My support and love to you

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Wow this is a real dilemma!!!

    On the one hand your mom has had a shit life with a violent man. When he was being nice she was walking on egg shells waiting on him to turn nasty.

    But on the other - she should not be dating a married man as there can be no future in it.

    However, she is getting some pleasure from his BS and he is building up her confidence. She may seem to be ignoring you as she is wrapped up in her new love affair - as you would be with a new bf!

    I think you should tell her that you'd like to spend some time with her but I wouldn't tell you dad in case he does her some serious damage - maybe even kill her.

    Try to concentrate on your own life and have some fun.

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  • Lynxikat
    12 years ago

    Question: is your mom still married to your dad? If she is, why doesn't she leave him?

    Also, I wouldn't tell your dad, but I wouldn't be supportive of your mother's behavior. It's not right. It's one thing if she's married and dating a man, but a completely other thing if she's dating a MARRIED man.

    I think it's normal.

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