Is it normal that i hate my mother so much?

I know that it may seem biased, since it is from my point of view, but try to hear me out. I want to know if I'm ok or not.

English is not my first language, so I'm sorry if I make mistakes. I asked the question in my native language, but no one helps me.

So, basically, my mom tells me to become a doctor since she thinks it suits my personality, as I am a quiet person. Although I (very slightly) see the correlation, she keeps forcing down my throat that I have to be a doctor. She keeps getting mad with me about becoming a doctor. She says that it's such a noble profession that saves lives blah blah blah. I'm sure it is, but I hate the idea of going to medicine. She keeps forcing down my throat that I am smart (even though I'm not THAT smart), and that if she were younger, she would become a doctor. I know for a fact that she likes the idea of money. I'm in an Asian family. They think that "doctor" is the only noble job and that any other profession is stupid. She keeps getting mad with me about it even though I don't want to be a doctor. You don't force one to become a doctor. I want to be a teacher, but supposedly that's a "poor man's job" according to her.

Also, everytime I do something to her, she never appreciates me. She rudely told me to clean the faucet as there was water stains. I tried cleaning the faucet (since there was water stains), and I used vinegar to clean it, as said by the internet since I didn't know what to do. It was shiny again; she looked at it, and she was sort of happy happy. The next day, the vinegar stained the sink and got furious with me. I said sorry, as I didn't know. She kept rambling on how it was my fault and how stupid I was.

There are thing she asks me to do that I have no idea to do. I check the internet to help her, and she gets so impatient with me. She tells that I never help her, when I think I do.

I tried helping her with the fax machine, and unfortunately I wasn't able to help her. She found the way and told me that she did it without the use of my "stupid" help. Then, she had the courage to do something else for her. Insulting someone, then you ask for his/her help? That really pissed me.

I help her with opening the TV, getting her phone, connecting her to the internet, cleaning the house. I know they sound small, and I don't expect her to say thank you, but it would be nice if she stop saying that I never help her with anything and constantly scream at me about everything.

She doesn't have a job, and she needs someone to vent her anger on.

She acts kind to me once and while I guess. She supported me through highschool, so I guess I'm appreciative of that...

But I hate her guts. She always screams at everyone at the house. She treats our help as if they were slaves of the lowest kind. She screams at me for not doing anything to her liking. I think of leaving the house, and go somewhere else. I don't have a plan, but I think any place is better than here.

Is that all normal?

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Based on 24 votes (16 yes)
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  • humptydumpty

    most children hate their mothers because they are brats. My kids hates me and I get it at alll.

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  • summerbreezen

    I am so sorry you have such a controlling mother who is rude and doesn't value your opinions about what you want to do with your future. The good news is you know that when you are a mother she is everything you don't want to be. You will listen to your child and love them unconditionally and be happy for them and encourage them to pursue what makes them happy in life. If you live your life fullfilling someone elses dreams and ignore your own, you will be absolutley miserable and filled with resentment. Can you sit your Mom down and talk to her about how you feel? If not I would put your feeling in a letter and give it to her. I pray you can follow your dreams and it sounds like you know how not to disrespect people and to accept everyone regardless of their economic class. We are all important. Good luck to you, be strong. We only have one life so make the best of it.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I think your feelings are normal.

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