Is it normal that i hate my mother/myself because of my mother?

I'm 18. I can't remember a single time where I slightly accepted my mother. I remember myself at 7 years being disgusted with the way she walked. She's arrogant as hell. She believes she's done everything and knows anything. She went to a crappy local saudi university with a shitty GPA, and she can't help but freaking brag about it. She complains about how all her social circles cut her off, yet says everyone always compliments her on how wonderful of a personality she has. The way she talks annoys me. She's so full of herself. She can never admit that she is wrong. She ruins my plans/breaks my heart every time she gets annoyed with something. She is always angry over nothing. She is a "housewive" even though we have three stay-home housemaides and a driver. She claims that my 4 year old brother gets her tired and is making ger sick, even though he spends most of his day at school, then with me or my dad. I like my dad. He's normal. I enjoy talking to him. I believe he sometimes overlooks major things, eg my mother's existence in his life. I believe he is tired of her without even realizing it. He comes back home from work, watches TV, goes out for soccer, has friends over, and almost spends no time with her. My father is understanding. My mother is not. She did not allow me to go to any of my friends' houses, or generally hang out, my entire primary school life. That clearly made me a pariah, and I grew up with no friends. I made my way through and now have my amazing friends by my side. I sometimes feel like I don't deserve them because of her. She forces me to wear the hijab (headscarf) whenever I'm with her. She's very strict about going my outings. My father is as well, but logically and I support him. She agrees to some of my outings, then suddenly changes her mind, leading to me ditching my friends. I know I would be sick of a friend who constantly cancels on me. I am sick of myself having friends because of her. She forces me to lie to her. I am """"innocent"""" in my friends' eyes, when I have to repeatdly lie to my mother in order to live a life. I can go on forever. I hate myself because of her. Is this normal?

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88% Normal
Based on 8 votes (7 yes)
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  • KingTermite

    tl;dr

    If you don't like her move away, cut her out of your life, be a grown-up and take responsibility for your circumstances.

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    • aloneliness_

      I wish it was that simple. I can't do that. I legally "belong" to my parents until I am married where I come from. My dad is able to let me go, but my mother will never be.

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      • KingTermite

        People do "illegal" things to escape to better circumstances all the time. If you don't want answers, don't post. There is always a solution to a problem, the fact that you don't like it doesn't mean it isn't available.

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        • aloneliness_

          I cannot travel without my father's consent form. I cannot drive a car. I would get arrested if I do. I have nowhere to go to. I cannot escape to university; who the heck is going to pay my tuition, and where am I going to live. """"dorms"""" don't exist where I live. Schorlarships don't without a parent's consent. It almost is impossible for me to find a realistic job; I am a female, job offers are VERY VERY EXTREMELY limitted, (you could find a max of 100 working af cash registers/stores in the entire city and they most probabaly are 20+), I NEED A FATHER'S CONSENT, and I need to be taken to the fucking location couple times a week. WALKING THE STREETS IS DANGEROUS. PUBLIC TRANSPORT DOES NOT EXIST. I AM NOT EXAGGERATING. I already absolutely HATE that I was cursed to be living here. I am trying to look for a damn solution, and not some childish idealist who thinks everything could be done a heartbeat. I am going through enough crap already, so it would be generous of you to cut it out. :-) (and these aren't even quarter the limitations that I'm facing mentioned above :D )

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          • KingTermite

            Again, just because it isn't easy doesn't mean it can't be done. I'm hardly an idealist, I'm a pragmatist. Instead of giving a lot of vague blither blather why not tell us what country this is we're talking about? I'd wager you're exaggerating quite a bit.

            Just the fact that you have internet access means escape is within reach. If I cared enough to bother, and you gave me a good enough reason to try, I could probably arrange to get you out within a week; that's the same power you could harness if you were willing to try.

            Of course IT EASIER TO BITCH ABOUT YOUR LIFE IN ALL CAPS than to do something about it.

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            • aloneliness_

              saudi arabia.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Maybe you can try to a get a job or go to school in another country then run away?

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        • aloneliness_

          I wish I could! it is all up to her. amd I cannot get a job with a steady sallary, my country doesn't offer jobs for people as young as I am, and it's even 2747295 times more difficult that I am a female. I'm at the verge of giving up. she's ripping off my personality and stopping me from doing everything I want to do.

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  • benderboy

    Same problem dude

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    • aloneliness_

      it's so frustrating, and I constantly feel bad about this.

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