Is it normal that i hate my mother in law!?

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Hi I'm 20 year old female I have been with my boyfriend Chris for 2 years. For the last year we have moved in with the mother in law,Susan, about 60 and I CAN'T STAND HER! her face...her voice makes my blood boil. She's the MIL from hell. Over bearing .Loud. nosey interfering fat cow. Every thing I do from work to feeding my dogs she has to interfere and whatever she says it's insulting. I quit my job once and she called me a 'silly little girl' she's always bitching about me to Chris and talking down to me like I'm 5 always disagree with me. And worst of all she always moves my stuff and covers it with her crap (shes really dirty and messy hoarder) Help me I need some advice!! And I hate my boyfriends 2 cats they're really dirty house/indoor cats and I just can't stand the idea of them one minute in there shitty litter trays then on the kitchen sides then your bed and pillow!!!

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Get out of there while you can .... Why are you living with such losers? Cat shit in your bed? GET OUT

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Its very tempting trust me! I've said this to my self so many times! Haha I am living with losers your right there. When I get fed up some days I might have a little moan to Chris (I know I shouldn't) i hate to let him think i hate his mother. but he's all I have now as I lost a lot of my friends and family due to our relationship (there's an age gap) he's just turn 33. So I guess that's why I'm on here
      , to have a chat I'm really lonley tbh . But do you think my family are right tho. Im wasting my life I don't have to put up with this do I. Or maybe you do?x

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Definitely get out of there! If he's 33 he's old enough to not be living with his mother anyway and it's very unlikely he'll change.

        Yes, you are wasting your life and you don't have to put up with it. Rebuild you life so that you're never in that situation again where one person is all you have, that's a recipe for disaster even if the person concerned is mature, which he obviously is not.

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      • green_boogers
        8 years ago

        Your family is right. Break up, and go live in a relative's basement until you can get reestablished. For your next boyfriend, have an age difference of 4 years or less. You need to establish stability for yourself.

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        • Ellenna
          8 years ago

          I agree with you except for the age difference comment; that's not the problem, he and his mother would be problems no matter what the age difference is.

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          • green_boogers
            8 years ago

            Yes he would. But she should know for the future that it has been shown that an age difference of 4 years or less makes relationships more stable. Stability is what she should be working toward.

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            • Ellenna
              8 years ago

              That's interesting, link to stats please, I've never heard of this. You could be right: having a brief look back over my relationship history there's been more than a 4 year gap for ALL of them, men and women, some older, some younger .....

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  • thefuckup
    8 years ago

    Ignore that awful bitch and start making plans to leave your house.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I do try to ignore her. And that's all I think about hun is getting the he'll out of this toxic dump. With and without Chris lol Obviously you know that these days it's hard but we are planning to build our house we need to buy land first but it just all seems like a dream. We have plans and theyre good but I don't know when they will actually happen we've been here about a year and a bit now and nothing!!

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  • Cymbalism
    8 years ago

    Mother-in-laws are notoriously awful as a species. It sounds like she doesn't like you very much so just be as respectful as you can and don't pick fights with her. You are staying in her house, after all, so you will just have to put up with her until you have the finances to be able to move out.

    You'll have to talk to your boyfriend about the cats. You can't force him to get rid of his cats but if you have good communication between the two of you, maybe you can work something out.

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  • Steve2.0
    8 years ago

    Okay, well. You probably do a lot more messy stuff with your boyfriend than the cats do...so ;)

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  • linchpin
    8 years ago

    I feel really sorry for you. It's an awful situation to be in. I hope the problem can be resolved in a manner which is best for all parties. Try and be civil and diplomatic with your reasoning, that's my advice

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  • Shackleford96
    8 years ago

    Have you not talked to him about this? You shouldn't have to put up with this.

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  • uklaur_lc
    8 years ago

    Thank you guys! What all 3 of you are saying is true. If I really love Chris I guess I should just stick it out. I always try to be respectful because at the end of the day she has taken us in her home. In total I live with 6 cats because of Chris has 2 and Susan has 4! They're all indoor cats and horrible vicious untrained and do what they want! I have to shut my bedroom door because otherwise they will piss and shit on my bed (they have done b4). I'm just living a total nightmare. Always stressed and my anxiety attacks are getting worse and worse :( I just can't take some days it's all to much for me I'm only 20 do you think I should be putting up with this. Is it normal? I suppose it is almost everyone hates living with in laws right!??
    thanks for your reply guys!x

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    • green_boogers
      8 years ago

      Not normal babe. Walk out that front door into freedom.

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