Is it normal that i hate my mother

Have you ever thought about creating a sitcom? You could call it: "How I hate my mother"...

Thou shall honor thy Mother and Father.

Any Suggestions on what to except from move out?

Hello another daughter who also has major issues with her mother! I don't understand her problem with me she can go weeks and be fine but then blows up and turns verbally abusive on me i am 24 and a student so i still live at home as the university i attend is around the corner from my home so it made no sense for me to move. I work on weekends and on any spare days free from uni. However every time i have a holiday from university my mother blows up, and calls me lazy and a disgrace for not doing the housework. My point towards this issue she has with me is the fact, that when i am on my holidays from uni i have masses of work loads to complete so i am actually not "lazing" about, my 2nd point to her issue is that, yes i may not do her, my step dads, and my brothers washing, ironing, cleaning etc but when she does the housework (rarely), she leaves mine out therefore i have learnt over the years to do all my own washing cleaning ironing, hoovering etc myself, and no item of mine is ever left outside of my bedroom so if or when the remains of the house is untidy it is not any of my stuff and it is usually my mothers own things which are lying about! She has also never included my room to hoover when she Hoovers the entire house as well as leaves out all my other general housework things mothers usually do for their children. This has been the case since i was 13 so from the age of 13 i have had to attend to all my own housework. My whole point to her argument/problem against me is that " why should i attend to your housework when you as a mother have never attended to mine" also baring in mind i look after my little brother sometimes 4 times a week when they both are at work but also always have their teas ready for them coming home from work. I never lie around watching the TV all day as i simply don't enjoy watching TV alone, she thinks just because i only do my own housework that i do nothing and i am lazy however as i mentioned she has never done me any favours so why should i do her any. Not forgetting the fact she almost NEVER does the housework herself anyway contradiction i think so!

Hello I am sorry your mother is mean to you. I once was told you do not hate you are indifferent. People have differences that's all. I never knew the love of a parent until I met my step-mother and we talked several times a week. She was always there no matter what bad relationship I was in. I have been free/independent for several years now and have never been happier. When she died my mother called me up and said I should not go to the funeral. I was so upset. You have to forgive to have your inner peace and healing. Unforgiveness causes disease. The catch to forgiveness is you must stay away. You are in a place where you need correct authority figures and she is not one of them. I am in that same boat. I am sorry but I do not miss my mom. I never even bonded with her as a baby and when she comes off with a remark like that and I get upset she calls everyone saying I am disrespectful. You have got to take care of you and pray for God's help. God Bless.

I hate her aswell!

i think your mom is jelous of you. i think you should be the better person and try being nice to her. ask her if she wants to go shopping or something. i think she thinks you think your better than her. which makes her mad becuz she wants you to look up to her so she puts you down to make u think she is better than you. i dont think wearing skinny jeans as a mom is a bad thing my mom does.

try making her feel important to you and see what happens if she continues her habits drop her. but maybe youll be suprised she does seem rather vain so maybe if u take the first step youll see a change. sometimes you have to be the bigger person even if u shouldnt be

Is your mum president Bush?

Sorry but it does sound like your mother has some issues. Did anything happen in her life before she had you that may have badly affected her? Some people talk about these things with their parents, others don't. Personally, I believe it's healthy to speak as openly as possible with parents - it's the 21st century now, you know? I don't know what sort of reaction you'll get if you attempt to speak to your mum. Have you spoken to your dad about how your mum is towards you? Maybe that would be a good starting point. However, if they're together, prepare for him to leap to her defence a bit even if he knows she's in the wrong. If they're seperated or whatever, then he may be able to take a more balanaced view. Sounds like there's a bit of a tangle of wires that need to be detangled here... apologies for naff metaphor.

well of course u love your dad... with a mom like that, it ain't hard to make him look good, even if he was on the strict side

mother you had me but i never had you , i wanted you you didnt want me, so i just got to tell you goodbye goodbye : lennon

When I first read the title of your post I thought, here we go again, another ungrateful little brat that should be thankful for everything that their mother sacrificed for them, but after reading it, I am totally on your side. your mother is a total bitch (sorry to say) and I think you should disown her. She shows no love for you. If you are dating or when you do date again, try form that mother and daughter relationship with your boyfriends mother. That way you can have the mother you never had.

that won't ever get fixed.

Some parents sabotage and destroy any relationship to their child. By being abusive they get what they deserve. You are not being mean or unreasonable. It is perfectly normal for you to protect yourself by keeping your distance and limiting contact and her negative presence in your life.

If you're mother is emotionally abusive then it would be a normal or even a positive thing to hate her.

While I try and take everything with a pinch of salt because there can be another side to an issue. If she has said things like "you should just be a prostitute because that's the only way a man would touch me" then I think it is clear that she is a very negative mother with emotional issues. My advice would be to listen your feelings and keep your distance from her and only try to renew your relationship if she makes a genuine change in her life.

If your Mom is a bitch, it is normal to hate her.