Is it normal that i hate my mother?

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I'm 19, and for as long as I can remember, I have hated my mom. I am a dancer, and the first time I showed her my dancing at a performance, she told me 'you might as well quit' and 'you call that dancing?'

She would always say how she wished I wasn't in her life and that I should be grateful that she didn't abort me. She would constantly check up on my studies and tell me that 99 wasn't good enough, why didn't I get 100?

She would instigate my father to think that I was always rude and irresponsible, when I had been handling all my affairs by myself, since the age of 13.

I felt myself falling deeper and deeper into depression after some time, having only ever received criticism from my entire family, and I started to self harm.

After she found out, she started saying 'I hope one day you die from cutting open your vein'. She would always act like the victim in any situation, saying that I was 'twisting her words'.

She also called me a bitch, prostitute and worthless, saying that I would 'never amount to anything'.

I genuinely hate myself because of this, I cannot stand to see myself, all I see are flaws and I feel like I am a mistake. Is it normal to hate her? Should I still respect her?

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  • Aroura77
    9 years ago

    TBH, I hate your mother and I don't even know her.
    Parents are humans too, they can and do have awful personalities.
    (These comments, if you take offence to them, just show that you actually love your mother, no matter what arguments you and she may have. You only get one mother, be glad you still have yours.)
    Quote:
    Peter Ustinov: Parents are the bones on which children sharpen their teeth.
    Or even better:
    Dick Cavett: If your parents never had children, chances are you won't, either.

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  • MasterOfWaffles
    8 years ago

    Get a baseball bat. If you can't figure out the rest, then you're a failure.

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  • Pauline
    9 years ago

    For not telling me who is my father.

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  • ZP21
    9 years ago

    no. i live by the motto of: respect gets respect. yes she is your mother and brought you into this world but she has no reason to treat you this way. stay strong and maybe find someone to talk to or find something you love and are passionate about and channel the bad energy into something you love. like dancing. my entire family are dancers ranging from dance teachers to my sister minoring in dance right now in college including me until i started playing football in 3rd grade. i hear all the time in my family that dance isnt just "dance" but it is an emotional getaway and a way to express your life and the stories youve been through. stay strong. live the way you want to live and focus on your dreams. maybe even be a bit selfish and dont listen to others and think that youre the shit. close your ears and open your mind. youll go far.

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  • yangzhe
    9 years ago

    Time to move out this shit house! and i also have problems like that too.

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  • rockerqueen
    9 years ago

    I think despite everything that you mum has ever said to you, you need to respect her. You don't have to like her even! Respect is a must I find. Especially with parents. I know it's a difficult task when you're the one being disrespected, but I think that's the first step to take.

    The next thing is, is that you are definitely not a mistake! You were brought into the world for a purpose! What that is, no one knows, but you find yourself eventually! Don't ever let anyone lead you to believe that you're worthless and that you can't do anything you're passionate about! If you love to dance, do it, and rock it! In a way I can completely understand where you're coming from!

    I'm in no way shape or form the smartest person, but I do know that feelings are just absolutely normal in general. It upsets me that she's said these things to you, but all I can really advise is that you respect her, and if you can, speak up! Tell her how you're really feeling! I just recently started to do that and it feels really good! No disrespect whatsoever! You could always go about saying, "You know, I don't appreciate that comment." Or, "I tried my absolute best and this is all I could achieve."

    I really hope this helps you in some way! Hang in there!

    :)

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