Is it normal that i hate my mother?

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okay, i work really hard and always try hard but my mother is a bitch and never appreciates anything i do. For example i stayed up to 11:00 last night to complete some work. I wasn't looking for her approval but i was pretty proud of myself for, despite my crippling ADHD, completing some rather difficult stuff. Instead she told me that i should never work so late or else i'll get fat and no one will like me. The next day i have absolutely zero work so i laze around, walk my dog, have a bubble bath, make dinner and just relax. She tells me i'm useless, and i should try to spread my work out more evenly. i tried to explain that yesterday something urgent came up but she wouldn't listen. plus she nags me 24/7! everytime she opens up her mouth i feel my chest clench and my knuckles flex and writhe with agony. I hate her and feel awful about it because families shouldn't be that way. I am inherently jealous of my friends moms and feel like i was ripped off.

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  • college
    9 years ago

    It sounds like she's constantly destructively criticizing you. It doesn't seem odd to be fed up with it.

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  • DevilDeals
    9 years ago

    Wow.
    For a person with ADHD, your grammar is wonderful compared to most. And no--this is evidently not normal. Most mothers should not be acting like this at all--she'd have the right, of course, if you were spoiled and whiny, but you're clearly not.

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  • Alwaysthequiet1
    9 years ago

    My mother is the same, thou shew prefers guilt trips and using things against me. This sounds like emotional abuse and it is absolutely not okay for her to get away with saying stuff like that.

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  • MysticLane
    9 years ago

    I feel the same. Don't let anyone try to make you believe you're wrong for not "loving" your family or something like that. It's all bullshit.

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  • sshope21
    9 years ago

    Sounds kind of like my mom, but my mom's worse. She constantly puts her kids down, but in front of other people, she acts like a saint. Give me a break. She is the most narcissistic, controlling, selfish, dumb child I have ever met. Any time she doesn't get her way, she starts whining and complaining about how she doesn't get this or that. And she's in her 40's.

    I am 20 now, but throughout my teenage years her opinions used to really put me down. I'd say the hurtful things she would say to me made me feel worthless many times. Over time, I began to care less and less about her opinions. I realized she was a nobody who just put others down and only cared about herself. Why should I care about her opinion? She is not successful in my eyes, and the less I care about what she says, the happier I am. I don't let it bother me. She is not someone I look up, nor will she ever be, she is a disgusting human being that I am embarrassed to be related to. I am absolutely jealous of my friends' moms because they have normal moms who are always there for them and are somewhat normal. Having a narcissistic mother is awful, but you'll get through it. Just like you ignore bullies who just put you down, ignore your mother when she says unpleasant things. Her words are not worth listening to, and she is not worth your time. Why should you care about the opinions of such a terrible person?

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  • Canttel!
    9 years ago

    SHES HALF SADIST!!

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  • feel_good
    9 years ago

    Actually it happens some times in life. but i belive that our mother loves us the most than any other person on earth.
    May be she is facing some problem and telling you this words in frustration. I think you should try to understand her and after some time, everything will be alright.

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