Is it normal that i hate my mom dating?

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I hate the idea of my mom dating! I'm 18 years old my parents are divorced I live with my mom and younger sister (10). I didn't mind it when I was younger and my older brother(Now 20) lived with us but I'm older and my brother has left for university it feels weird. I can tell when she starred daring someone which is once every like blue moon so she hardly dares at all. I want her to be happy but I hate it. I go and cry and get upset when she talks about dating and seeing someone especially when I see them more then my real dad(Haven't seen him in two years because he lives in a different province.). Im not a selfish braty child it just makes me upset. It makes my mon un happy and I hate that because she is very loving and hard working but whenever I talk to one of her boyfriends Im so rude and not one purpose and I feel incredibly bad because they are so nice to me and my sister. Does anyone else feel this way?

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  • Babe20134
    12 years ago

    Thank you again for all the helpful comments. I am beginning to feel a lot better about he dating people. I also told my mom how I feel and she told me that she would never date anyone before making sure they understood that her children come first and this has also made me feel so much better!

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  • Fatcat76
    12 years ago

    It's normal to feel that way. I think you might be feeling that if she dates someone that she will love you less. That won't happen. You need to respect you Mum as a person as well as her being your Mum. Think of it the other way round - she needs company, a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to etc. She may feel that she can't date anyone because she has a duty to her kids. My advice is to let her know that it's OK to date someone and that you fully support her. I went through the same thing as you so you're not alone in this.

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  • Babe20134
    12 years ago

    I'm actually 14 I just said 18 just in case it didn't get through the mods.

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    • PumpkinKate
      12 years ago

      Boss.

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  • silkspector
    7 years ago

    Your mum has the right to have a life and an active sex life there is nothing you can do human nature do you want her to be lonely for the rest of her life because you and your sister will grow up and move on

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  • Haeven
    12 years ago

    Yeah think it would be normal to hate that. I was going to say you should try not to be rude if theyre being nice but im not in your situation, i dont think i would take it that well either. My parents almost got divorced once but i highly doubt my mom would ever date someone else again, and if it was my dad and another girlfriend i had to live with i would be outta there.

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  • Babe20134
    12 years ago

    Thank you for the advice. I really do try to be polite because I honestly do really like them but it always comes out as rude and braty.

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    • Crudhouse
      12 years ago

      Listen...don't let anyone make you feel as if you don't have the right to feel bad about your mom dating. NO ONE wants to think of their parents as anything but 'parents'. Funny seeing all these people trying to make such a politically right case out of this when I'm sure they would have done much worse when they were kids themselves. Btw...if you don't feel comfortable...feel free to show your emotions...you are COMPLETELY entitled to it

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      If you can't say anything nice, then say nothing at all.

      It would maybe be better if you stayed out of the way.

      I'd like you to think how you would feel if it was the other way round - and your mum was rude to a friend / bf you brought home. You would feel so ashamed!

      I feel sorry for your mum but you are a child and too immature to understand adult emotions. Your mum deserves a little companionship coz although I'm sure she loves you to bits, she is only human and needs some adult friends.

      Turn that frown upside down. You can never lose your mum to anyone else!!

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    It's normal to be upset over this but you should really try and be nice to the people she dates. Your mom is probably lonely and those guys she dates, probably try really hard to be nice to you. They know how divorced children are. So try and make it easier for your mom and her dates.

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  • NotSoHappyNinja
    12 years ago

    I understand how you feel. I feel uncomfortable with my mum dating but it's probably for a couple of different reasons.
    It's hard seeing your mum with someone new and you have to get to know them yourself as well, also there is the chance of it not working out and having to start all over again. It's completely understandable and it takes time to get used to it.
    But you're not the only one who feels that way, trust me x

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