Is it normal that i hate my mom?

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Idk if I exactly 'hate her' because that's a strong phrase. I know she is harsh to me and I do not deserve it.
I constantly give her respect and tell her how much I appreciate all she does for me. I help out loads, as much as possible. In return, she is always putting me down!! Since I was 10 she has been telling me I'm fat. I finally believed her and stopped eating and lost weight. STILL NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER! She tells me to work on my weight more, but I do dance 6 hours a week. She tells me I will never be a good enough dancer and dance is more important than school. I will get all A's but she literally tells me "okay, so?" She doesn't care. I won 2 scholarships and she said: you didn't practice your turnout this week so it means nothing.

But yet if my older brother's grades go from an F to a D she throws a party, says she's so proud, and hangs it on the fridge. I do all of his chores whilst he plays xbox. He also puts me down. One time my mom said "food!" and i said: I'm not hungry *lyingly* and he said: wow for once in your life you're not stuffing your face.
He also told me I hope you die soon.
I'm tired of hating myself, and working so hard in every aspect of my life just to be put down.

Is it normal to even understandably be mad at my mother? Are mothers supposed to treat their daughters like this?
(edit: note i cannot move out, im not of a legal age)

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Based on 34 votes (27 yes)
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  • dirtybirdy
    7 years ago

    Your mom has issues. I would do whatever it took to move out and cease all contact.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    I understand how you feel my mother was awful to me to so I moved away and have almost no contact with my family now. I hope you can get a better situation. Good luck.

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  • escmund
    7 years ago

    Yes, it is normal sometimes to be mad at your mom as long as it is reasonable, but you must easily forgive, because she is your mom.
    No, a MOTHER should not treat their daughters like that.

    You need to talk to your mother more openly. Just give your best, and the right people will notice and praise you, just forget about your mother's judgment. When you give your best, you deserve the best.

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  • Horndogjim1064
    7 years ago

    I hate your Mom and I have never met her.

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  • raagekai6991
    7 years ago

    Do not get angry. Don't exert yourself for people who don't deserve it. Play it cool, develop a complacent mindset around them. You will never develop cohesive familial ties with them if their outlook towards you is this poor at this stage in life. When you are ready you should severe the bonds you have with them, your life should become exponentially better.

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  • cherrieblos
    7 years ago

    yes it's your right to have grudge on your mother. you're getting older and getting more mature, you're not a robot to your mother so you gotta be able to change things to be better. Don't look weak in front of her, spill out what you think you deserve from her, tell her that she's been treating you bad and all. Keep your grades up and don't miss any of your mother's points, if she asks you to dance then prove that you can. that can make both yourself and your mother satisfied. maybe she is still holding onto you to be what she wants you to be, not what you want to be. don't you care anymore of what she thinks about your scores, you've done beyond great so far. she is just shortminded and doesn't understand you.

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  • flwrswhisperingnthenight
    7 years ago

    Wow that is super sad. I am so beyond sorry that this is happening to you. I can totally understand that you hate her. And it is really sad that she would do this to you. It's so absolutely ridiculous to me. I hope that you get to move out soon and have a good life...away from them.

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  • MissKira
    7 years ago

    I am anorexic and bulimic because of the same thing...plus I am trying not to do the same thing to my own kids but its hard...

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