Is it normal that i hate my girlfriends kid

I've been with my gf over 2 years now and I just can't stand her kid. I tried at first to get along with her but she's just become more and more anoying and she's putting a real strain on our relationship. I'm at the point now where I can't bare to look at her or hear her stupid squeaky babyish voice. She's like 7 but does that stupid baby voice.
It's got to the point where Anything bad o say about her is wrong , if she's doing something wrong and I tell her mum , me and her mum argue and her mum says I'm just saying these things because I hate her .
I'm white and my girlfriend is Latin, the daughter is black with an Afro and this plays part in it too, I just don't feel I can accept this black kid who looks fuck all like her mum but her dead beat dad she never sees. She's definitely inherited his attitude too which I can't stand. I'm sick of the site of seeing that Afro Bounce around and even tell her mum to tie her hair back, I don't know if I feel ashamed , ambarrased or what, I feel stupid walking Down the street , me a white guy, the girlfriend darkish Latin, and then this black Afro kid, I feel everyone is looking at me knowing I've taken on this kid and I don't know , it gives me a bad feeling , it definitely hurts my pride.
The kid is also so anoying, always moaning , problems every trine during dinner , acts like a baby and gives me attitude , pulls faces and answers back to me , and seems to want to get right in between us . She's just so anoying , I even hate the way she walks. At the moment we have an on/ off relationship, I try and ignore her , sometimes don't bother , sometimes we play for a bit , but deep down I would be happy to never see her again in my life . Because all this has become apparent with my girlfriend she's realised I don't like her daughter and now we argue all the time over her daughter. I really love my girlfriend so much and I can see how much this is hurting her, we've nearly finished so many times over this but over the last few months I sensed less love from her. I don't know if this will be repairable and how it can be fixed , I don't want to loose my girlfriend but the thought of her kid goes through me . We're also in a long distance relationship and see each other around 6 months a year , so it's hard enough dealing with that aswell as trying to accept this kid that looks nothing like her mother and is a different race to us both. I'm not racist I feel I just can't accept the fact she's black too, I don't think anyone wants a kid forced on them but it could at least be the same ethnicity as the women you're dating .

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Comments ( 6 )
  • Forestheart

    If you can't stand her daughter then stay away from her mother. With no father where do you think she'll go. You're probably thinking how am I supposed to live with this little brat. But what's more important is that how is that seven year old supposed to live with a stepfather who detests her so much. You sound more immature then the kid. And what is the point of arguing with your girlfriend over the kid? Are you telling her to get rid of her child!

    Whatever you do, do not ask your girlfriend to choose between you and her daughter. I'll hurt her more than you can imagine. I you love her enough embrace her daughter. If you can't do that breakup with her.

    I know I shouldn't interfere so much, but I don't like the situation you're putting that girl into.

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  • Big_Jew_Noses

    OP, you tried playing daddy to someone else's kid. You deserve credit for trying to do that. It's extremely difficult to do, after all its not and never will be, your kid.

    From the sound of your post it looks like you are slowly realizing the truth about this. This is not a good situation and you will not be happy so don't delude yourself into thinking it will "get better".

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  • Mikeymanc

    No I've never asked her to choose between us I've told her to teach her kid some manners and respect instead of being an anoying little shit. She's rude, bad mannered , and the opposite of how I'd want my daughter to be, the fact she's black gives me even less of an attachment to her , and the fact she looks nothing like either of us embarrasses me. It's got to the point where every time I tell her not to do something me and her mum argue because apparently I'm only saying it because I hate her , so she's now basically got a free reign to do whatever she wants with me and get away with it. She's got a really bad attitude . Especially when she doesn't get her own way with tantrums and stuff too. To be honest I though she's already ruined the relationship , things aren't the same anymore and I suppose it angers me now because her mum stays in the mood with me all day but then shows all the love to her daughter when I'm not getting any love , I know this is happening and I suppose now the best thing to do is walk away

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    • Big_Jew_Noses

      Do it, just walk away. You don't have some obligation to raise someone else's kid and that kid is just going to get worse when puberty hits. You want to come home from a long day at work and deal with a bunch of crap from some kid that isn't even your own?

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  • howsway

    Yeah man, go ahead and cut that one off. it's not for you, seriously. She may grow up and be a decent person, but i kinda think the Afro part of her is too much added on to that crappy attitude. I'm in a similar situation, and yours is worse than mine, unfortunately. i would most definitely see my way out of it. It sucks for sure, and there is nothing inherently wrong with them but you can do better for yourself.

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  • Sara0303

    I don't blame you. I'd leave her

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