Is it normal that i hate my "friend" with bpd?

I have a friend with BPD, and I absolutely despise her. She has temper tantrums all the time if her parents won't buy her expensive gifts, even if they are broke. She twists everything I say around until it seems like I'm an awful person. She was complaining to me once that she thought that she sucked at everything, and I told her that everybody is good at some things and bad at others. And she then told her parents I said she sucked at everything. She forces her guests to clean up after her and to do her chores. She feels that it is okay to verbally assault somebody, twist their words, and treat others like shit but if somebody so much as tries to give her friendly advice, she claims she's going to kill herself and kill others around her. When my boyfriend broke up with me, she took this as an opportunity to try and date him, and this is coming from a girl (not me, her) who will scream, cry, and hit people if somebody so much as looks at her crush. She's a fat tub of lard and pre-diabetic. I have advised her to stop eating so much (her family of four buys five large pizzas every night and eats them) so that she does not get diabetes. She ruins everything she touches. I can't stand being around her. I'm sick of that fat tub of lard ruining my friendships and relationships. She has built up a false world around her. My mother has BPD and I get enough of that shit at home. She despises me because I'm not overweight, I'm considered a very intelligent person, and because I'm not a fat cunt that likes to make up lies about her family having problems to get sympathy. She has literally lived the fairy tale life: She has received all the love she's ever wanted, material things, and she's never been raped or abused. Me, on the other hand, have been raped, physically and severely emotionally abused, my parents are divorced, my mother was an alcoholic and drug abuser, and my father refused to touch me or tell me he loved me through ages 7-12. How can somebody like her, who is so happy and has had every chance in the world to keep and be a good friend to somebody, has turned out such an awful person? I'm a very happy person . HOW DO I GET RID OF HER? The last time I tried, she told the principal I was sending her death threats!!! Honestly, by that time, I wanted nothing to do with her and tried to put her out of my mind. I'm sick of her lies. Help. I'm a very loving and forgiving person. I've even forgiven my parents for what they put me through when I was younger. But she... She is below my forgiveness.

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  • friend?

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  • 7even

    For a "very happy person," you seem to have a lot of pent-up rage. Stop reveling in self-pity and try doing something more useful with your time then post something that belongs on Yahoo answers.

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  • Comando96

    I have a method.

    Say your feeling suicidal.
    With your history (if it is known, or you declare it) of abuse and bad family, you pin how your feeling on her... a wall will be build around you, from her.
    Mention that she claimed the last time you tried to distance yourself about the death threat claims.

    Say she is driving you mad.

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    BPD must be a fucking nightmare to live around with but, this does sound to me (have depression, best friend with someone who knows someone with BPD) like an excuse of the highest order to get shit. Its most likely been built into her psyche from a young age by now that if she complains and uses her condition as an excuse as a means to get stuff. Possibly its almost primal instinct.
    This has likely been caused by ignorant(lack of knowledge) parenting.

    Is it normal to hate someone like this? Of fucking course it is! Your a human being. You are not a super caring alien or Jesus Christ. I'd hate her if I came into contact with her.

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  • You can be mad at her for what she does but I don't think bringing her weight into it does your own case any favours.

    You wouldn't have mentioned it if she were a stick insect size.

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    • Yes I would. Look... I used to be overweight. I realized this and began to exercise and to eat healthily. I've been trying to help her lose weight because she is in danger of getting diabetes as well as heart attacks. I wouldn't make fun of somebody who is overweight and trying to do something about it, but I most definitely will if they can sit there and complain then go eat a whole pizza and a gallon of Pepsi. Alright? I would have said something if she was stick size, because that is equally as disgusting as somebody who is obese.

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      • She might be depressed for all you know and she probably knows that she needs to lose weight herself but a FRIEND doesn't call their friend "a fat tub of lard" or a "fat cunt" no matter what.

        There's no need to call her such names even if you are mad at her. Her weight has nothing to do with her BPD.

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  • flax

    You sound really frustrated and angry. She's too toxic-walk away from the friendship because it's not worth it

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  • Internecine

    Bronchopulmonary dysplasia is no reason to hate.

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    • flutterhigh

      Yeah, just because your friend works for the Boston Police Department, doesn't make her less of a person.

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    • flutterhigh

      And having butt-pain daily is a perfectly normal occurrence.

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  • MrSchizo

    Wait, are there different types of BPD? l'm BPD but not like this. I have loads of good friends! Maybe her acting like a selfish bitch is just her personality aswell as BPD. BPD is hard to live with, and I know I can be an ignorant fuck sometimes, but my friends accept me and carry on. This c*nt sounds like a real bitch though...

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  • lala85

    too long...got bored

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  • alv1592

    Wow, sorry to hear about what you've been through. People who seem to have the perfect life always seem to be complaining. To be honest, she doesn't sound like a friend. She tried to hook up with your bf right after you broke up..a true friend wouldn't do that. I think you should ignore her and find new friends. Good luck to you.

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    • squirrelgirl

      That's because no one has a "perfect" life. There are always struggles no matter what your wealth or social status. "Grass is always greener on the other side" and all that jazz.

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      • Yeah, but hers was still pretty good.

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  • You should abandon her, make her feel bad for being overweight and ruin her life. You should do all of that in a very sneaky way. She seems like one of th people that needs to be taught a lesson. You should teach her the lesson.

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    • galym

      wtf is wrong with you making fun of fat peopleand you dont teach somoene a lesson for bieng fat thats not right

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      • When did I ever say that she should teach her a lesson for being fat? I said you should teach her a lesson, not that she should teach her a lesson because she's fat.

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  • hottyhottness

    oh don't worry its 7,000% normal I HATE MY FRIEND....like hate. She convinced me to break up with my boyfriend of three years because he "didn't treat me right" and "wasn't good enough" then she started texting him right after....I just found out a month ago that they've been together behind my back for 6 months. Ohhhh, did I mention that she lied and turned him against and told him I slept with 8 guys, cheated on him blah blah blah. funny thing is all the lies she told him about me were true things about her! weeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!! love life, love friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • joybird

    Slowly slide her to one side and just don't be available to her. You don't have to hang out with her, so hopefully she'll get bored with your non-communication and find other friends.

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  • HSVWHO

    Question: after all that, what makes you still wanna hang with her???

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    • Guilt.

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