Is it normal that i hate my children?

Yes, if they are that disrespectful let them fend for themselves. Don't chicken out, you are better off without them. Don't even send money, just go.

I think you should clean up the common areas of the house like living room and kitchen. The kids shit should be boxed up and if not put away wthin 24hrs throw it out or storage it at a friends house. Make them think you threw it away. Take away basic privacy from the children ala bedroom doors. Take away all clothes except 2 pants and 3 shirts so they will learn to launder their own shit or wear dirty clothes to school. I knew how to do chores and laundry by age 7. They need to shape up or live without.

Haha, you go girl! Let those bastards rot in their own filth. Go buy a nice little beach house and find a hot young man. Best wishes!

I agree with you, this is just a rant out of frustration. I don't know how anyone has the ability to put up with 18+ years of raising kids. Parents are super-human.

I know this is an old post but I found it because I am feeling exactly the same way. I have been married for 20 years and have 3 teenage daughters. Once upon a time , I was so very happy. I gave all of myself to them, always put them first, because I loved them so much. They didn't give a shit and eventually started to expect and demand it. I still put them first and do and do for them because I guess thats just who I am. Now that they are teenagers they are spoiled rotten disrespectful lazy and mean assholes. My 14 year old daughter wouldn't even give me a french fry the other day when I bought them fast food. That broke my damn heart . I can't get them to do a damn thing around the house and feel like a monkey maid. Everytime I fuss at them and demand they do something to help around the house my husband defends them and calls me a bitch and tells me " They said they will do it , quit bitching at them" . 3 freaking days later who do you think is the one cleaning the damn bathroom that they said would clean? I told them to feed the dogs , an hour later they still hadn't. I demanded they get off their ass and do it and their father yelled at me " They said they will , so stop !" I went to bed and discovered that they never opened the bag of dog food and let the poor dogs starve that night, My husband doesn't do jack shit to dicipline them. he never does anything with them, he has never once gone to their school , drove them to a doctor, or any of the things that I do and he is their freaking super star and I am the crazy bitch. We got a call in the middle of the night , Our 16 y/o was picked up by police with a group of kids and they had been drinking. I yelled at her once we got into the car and he told me " To stop , he wasn''t in the mood to listen to my shit" . I take away their phones for skipping school and he gives them right back. They will cuss at me and completely disrespect me and he pretends that he doesn't hear them and does nothing. If I demand that he do something then he yells at them and then gets mad at me and treats me like he just did me a huge favor. I like a clean and pretty home. They should be glad that I work so hard to give them a nice home , They give zero shits. My husband will walk across the floor, that I just scrubbed on my hands and knees with his dirty shoes on , and then so " Oh, I didnt mean to. He has been doing that for 20 fucking years . Because I want to live in cleanliness and they are disgusting pigs, I am called a crazy bitch. Someone threw books and junk from a box onto my 100 year old Haviland Limoge china that my grand father gave me and chipped some of my damask cups that are worth over $100 each. blatent act of disrespect and it made me cry. My husband got mad at me for crying and throwing a fit that someone in this family could do such a thing. I was the bitch because I was upset that someone was too lazy and inconsiderate to put the books where they belonged and not throw them in the cabinet with my family heirlooms . Go figure ! I admit, I do bitch a lot these days and its always over the same thing. The filthy house. I just want them to wipe their own asses so to speak. I can scrub and scrub and clean their filth and make it perfectly clean. 2 days later it will look like a crack shack and I am the bitch for getting mad that their is a pan of rancid eggs rotting in the sink pizza crusts on the couch. I quit cleaning after them for 2 months when I got a job . It was beyond disgusting and I found roaches in my kitchen. Again, I was the bitch because I went ape shit and they didn't want to hear it. I am still trying a month later to get this house back to my standards. They give zero shits. I refuse to decorate for Christmas because they dont appreciate it and wont help me around the house. I usually have several trees, every room in the house decorated, and a gorgeous light display.I was going to decorate a tree tonight but I had to clean the trashed out laundry room fist. I asked my daughter to get all the nail polishes and put them in a basket in the bathroom. That small request turned into a full blown war. You would have thought that I asked her rebuild a transmission . She spoke to me like I was dog shit and made me cry. I had been cleaning and working my ass off allday to get ready to decorate " for them" and only asked for that one small task. My husband got mad that I was crying because I was so insulted and went and yelled at her. Of course he then is mad at me because he had to do something. My breaking point tonight was when I put a load of their laundry to be folded. He and my daughter folded a few theings at first. He walked away and she went to texting on her phone, 15 minutes go by and the shit still isnt put away. I go to do it because I want my living room to stay clean and it would have literally taken 2 minutes. All hell broke out and he yelled at me " She is doing it !"No the fuck she isnt. just like she never is when you scream that shit at me !" He defends them and attacks me for getting mad that they dont do shit. I am sick of them, I am to the point that I hate them. I am the dog shit on their shoe and yet I am the bad guy. I am to the point that I dont even want to live anymore. I have no job, I have no family here , or anywhere to go but I am leaving them some how some way. I am tired of being the only one trying. They are selfish assholes.

YEAH! FIGHT THE POWER!!!!

Wow. Only if your kids saw this...

I know exactly what you mean. I say start walking and keep walking. Don't look back. Every day they suck the life out of you. You're just easy to blame for everything, easy to manipulate, easy to abuse. Every single day I think of walking away, a new name, a new life with nobody in it. We only have one life to live. Why squander it on miserable people who don't care about you anyway. Throw the chains away!

Get yourslef help hun, it can get better.

I hear your frustration. At 1st, we start off w/ so much unconditional love. Then it gets stressful or complicated. Then it gets to the point where you just want to say PHUCK this... I gave up my life for this?! Somewhere along the road something went wrong and became dysfunctional. It's time for the whole family to go to therapy. When you give up, everything goes south. Best of luck to you.

I see all the "you're so selfish" comments but I suspect these people have never had kids or an ineffectual whiny man child for a partner. I totally get how you're feeling. My husband isn't so much abusive as lazy and irrational. He doesn't work and whines about how he has no time. He took his breakfast downstairs and has been "eating" for an hour now. This is typical. It will take him about 2 hours to get through breakfast, then he'll want a nap. My 3 year old is whiny, loud, disobedient and all around unpleasant to be around. I'm so fed up that when my 11 month old cries, the 3 year old is whining, and daddy is whining just as much all I want to do is get in my car and drive away. Forever. I get the kill the whole family sentiment. It gets HARD to tolerate this shit, but I never would kill anyone. Though I don't know how much longer I'll last before I might throw myself in front of a train. I am miserable.

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u stupid hoe u should be aahamed to talk about ur kids like this.

I am sorry to hear of your pain. But you must remeber you are a mother. But first instead of thinking about leaving your kids. I think you need to get rid of the father bottom line. As for your children remember they dont know what respect or priorities or anything are but they are your children they represent you teach them to be fine young men and women. Do not leave them with their father it will destroy their life if he doesent care about them now he wont later. Do this for you and your kids kick him out and tough love will have to be apllied for your children to start behaving properly. I prefer military style and loosen as time progresses but still remain firm.

I remember making my mother's life HELL when I was a kid... I regret it now but what to do I was just a kid :) pretty sure your husband should give you a hand with the children discipline. although it may just not cut it... I remember me being so stubborn and manipulating that I would do what I wanted no matter what, even if I got my ass kicked... what can I say ask your husband so step in and help with kids discipline and be patient.

I'm not a parent, nor do I ever want or plan to be. But I can imagine how you're feeling, stressed and at the end of your rope. I understand how you could resent your kids...if I ever had kids, I would resent the living hell out of them for ruining my life.
Anyway, it seems you need time away from your family. It would be a good idea to take some time out for yourself and not have to deal with kids or husbands.

I also agree with thinglonger

to hate your children you must be really weird...but if your children are acting badly then maybe you should go speak to a professional

Time to call SUPERNANNY!!!

Well if you have 2 children - I gather they are older - and a husband treating you like their personal slave & won't listen I think you have a pretty good strategy already. Stop. Let them cook, clean, shop etc. etc..

But you seem to have little hope if you are contemplating leaving altogether. This is your family, and that i will say is extreme, doesn't make you bad - just, desperate.

Do you think you can let them live with their own lazy-assed inconsiderate behaviour & then suggest the whole family head for counseling.? I think you owe it to yourself to at least try.

being a wife and mother is not all it's cracked up to be. sometimes you have to live for yourself, you know, be a real person, instead of somebodys wife or mother. no doubt this is why so many young mothers get depressed. hang in there. i would advise you to talk to your primary care physician, i think you could use a little help right now.

The problem is not my children. The problem arises from my husband. I have been to counselling and was advised that my husband (who also attended) is abusive. He was so disruptive and verbally abusive during the session, that the counselor asked him to leave. She said that children often imitate the abusive parent and this is why the children are copying him.
Also, the children should have learnt by now to respect me as they are 13 and 11. The solution is not to leave, but to somehow get my husband to leave...or to get him some therapy.
Also, I was having a bit of a rant. I do love my children. I am not abusive to them and I treat them with love and respect. They do not know I was so depressed about things the other day as they were at school.
Actually, I have often thought about if they would be better with someone else raising them... ??? I think my problem is mostly that I am too nice...I ALLOW people to treat me badly. The counsellor thinks this has come from my childhood...so I am going to work on those issues with her. She says I need to be more assertive.
PS...I have not left yet. Probably can't.

NO!NO! woul u like it if your moer also hated you and wish you were dead if u think so plz don't say anything be ashamed of yourself!

Your frustrated, and at the end of your rope..thats all. You are not alone.
Taking care of many other people is a hard job! Especially when they take advantage of you.
You need to demand respect, yet give respect back. Love will recycle itself back to you.
LOVE - is the key word.
Being a mother is one of the hardest tasks we face. you're stuck with this "title" for the rest of your life. You have to live up to standards and all sort of other bullsh*t.
You should never get to the point of needing to actually 'type out the words you did above' though. But I can see you have reached your boiling point.
And I think you should try to get some time away to figure your life out. That will be a much better solution than going completely insane.
Getting away, I know is easier said than done.
but if you are saying such rash things... then you need to go away for awhile. You need to leave for a small time before your beautiful children sence your hatred, and you become useless forever.
They need you! You're an angel in thier eyes. This is the truth, no matter how crappy they treat you right now.
Stay strong and the benefits will outweigh your suffering in the end.