Is it normal that i hate my brother this much?

Ok well my brother is older then me and my mom has never held him responsible for his actions. Ever! He dropped out of high school when he was 16. All through his teenage years he smoked pot and was drunk. He has always treated me like shit. Don't get me wrong, we have our days where we get along ok, but I still can't stand him.
He just finally got a job a few years ago and he does help support my mom and I (I'm in school and no one wants to hire a teenager with no experiance) But because we need him to help pay bills and rent and whatever he feels like that is enough of a reason to walk all over us and treat us like garbage.. My boyfriend also lives with us and he doesn't have a job, so he helps with chores and stuff. My bfs main job is washing the dishes. But if he forgets a a night or so my brother blows up and acts like a tyrant. No one in my family likes him other then my 7 year old neice and my mom who is in pretty much denial of his behavior... He's emotionally and verbally abusive. He threatens to hit me all the time, but bhe knows I'll call the cops on him. One time when I didn't want to go with him to pick up my mom from work with him because i had a ton of homework to do. He stole my phone and when i tried to grab it pack he punched me really hard in the arm and threatened to punch me in the face. We don't have a lot of money at all and life is hard living from paycheck to paycheck but my mom tries to make a good life for us.but all he wants to spend money on is cigarettes and rockstar energy drinks. And then he gets upset when we want to go buy actual food so the rest of us wont starve! If it doesnt benefit him in some way he doesnt care... Our neice just had her first communion and he couldnt be bothered to even come. He's basically her only father figure and she loves him morre then anything, but he couldnt even show up for her. She also had a ballet reciatl and then our whole family was going to go out to eat, and he was invited to go but he didn't. And when I had to tell my niece why he wasnt there she looked really sad. He knew it was important to her but he doesn't care at all. He constantly calls my bf names and insults him whenever he can. My bf thinks hes always kidding or joking around but i know my brother isn't. Hes ruined every holiday gathering we've ever had. 2 xmas ago he picked a fight with our older sister and that resulted in a huge family war. Last xmas he threatened to move out because my big dog barked at him a little. He made a big show of moving his stuff to his car and driving off for an hour. He was back because he knew that no one else in the family wants him around and all of his friends are either drug addicts or live with their moms just like he does. My sister doesnt even talk to him unless he has to. He makes everyone miserable, so I want to know if its normal that i hate him