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This isnt just some "he annoys me " shit. I literally cant stand to hear him breathe, or just have him in the same room as me. I really cant stand him. Everything he does makes me frustrated. Is it normal to feel this way?
It's okay to hate your brother and it's not uncommon to have those feelings.
Here's my advice:
First, make sure you protect yourself from him if he is hurting you physically or emotionally.
Next, be sure to love yourself. You can't really love anyone else until you truly love yourself. Sometimes it takes a lot of practice...especially if you've been bullied by parents or siblings.
Then...
Remember, what you focus on will grow. Try to find something, even a small thing, that is good about him and focus on that. Whenever you are thinking negative thoughts about him, immediately switch to a positive thought.
After some time you'll feel better. You don't need to deny the fact that there are negative things about him....you just have a choice on what YOU focus on.
You have the power to thing and feel however you want. Don't let anyone else take that power from you.
Lastly,
keep a small part of your heart open to your brother. He may grow and mature and someday realize how awful he's been. He may even admit and apologize....or just try to make up for it by trying to become closer. If and when that happens, if you keep an open mind and open heart, you may someday have a brother you love.
I say all of this from my experience.
I used to hate my mother. Truly hate her. I didn't believe she would ever change. I couldn't imagine ever loving her. I learned to practice the advice I just gave you and I have a wonderful relationship with her today.
You have the power to think or feel however you want.
Ask yourself, "is this how I want to feel" and then make change in yourself. You can't change other people. It's a waste of time to try.
I hope this helps (if not now, someday in the future)
Peace.
Sibling rivalry...? I get along well with my brother so I can't say that I relate. The only time I hated him without cause was when I was like 7.
Toss some candy in the middle of a busy street and that should solve the problem. Even if he survives, you won't have to see him, because you can refuse visitors when you are an inmate in prison.
A real win/win scenario, don't you think?