Is it normal that i hate my boyfriend?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. i recently graduated high school early and started college. My boyfriend, however, is still there. When i was going to school with him i would make sure that he was up each day and ready to go on time (i hate slackers). But ever since i left, he has slept in almost every day or doesn't even go at all.. I don't want to feel like i am babysitting and have to make sure he is going, but if i don't, no one will and he will never go. We have begun fighting all the time and not getting along at all. I lately feel extremely ignored and feel as if he is treating me like a friend and not a girlfriend. When i try to be intimate with him he wont want to and will just say he is not in the mood. He is on the road of not even graduating high school and there is no way that i can stay with him if he doesn't.. i think that i hate him for making me like this and feeling as if i am his mother....is it normal?

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  • Ice
    13 years ago

    Um, he might have depression.

    Lack of motivation, sleeping all the time, drop in libido, irritable, lack of interest in things he used to care about (you).

    He might just be being a dick and taking you for granted.

    Try and talk to him about his mood, is he feeling hopeless? constantly low mood? eating less? If you get yes answers then make him go to the doctor.

    If he does have depression:
    You have a serious decision to make, being with someone with depression is very very hard, I would look it up so you get a clear idea of it.

    But trust me, I know from experience even though you'll know it's not his fault and it's just his illness, you will start to hate him, if you think you can stay with him whilst sometimes hating him then please do, but know yourself. Don't stay and then realise you can't handle it and back out when he's come to depend on you.

    On the plus side he WILL get better and return to being the person you know.

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  • PillowHumper
    13 years ago

    Dump him. Personally i think he's seeing another girl, maybe its me being paranoid and i don't want you to feel paranoid too, But if he's a slacker and your being successful and he's holding you back and treating you like a friend instead of a Girlfriend thats more intimate then dump him. Im a male if your wondering.

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  • frist
    11 years ago

    He needs a mother, and that's not you - he will just drag you down. Maybe if you leave he might pull himself together.
    Does he have a friend you can talk to about your concerns for him, someone who will keep an eye out for him?

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  • Bbygirl.
    13 years ago

    If you have doubts he won't graduate high school he probably won't. Sadly, seems like you're the only one pushing him. If he does graduate, he probably won't want to do anything after that. Does he have a job or have any career goals? If not, you probably should leave him.. If he is that unmotivated, i'm sure your the best girl he's had. You don't want to be dragged down though. You deserve better. Good luck.

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