Is it normal that i hate my "best friend"?

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In short. I basically hate my friend.

In long, This "friend" of mine is really extremely clingy to the point of annoyance. I am a completely distant person who hates affection but likes to show I care through my words but she is a really really really clingy person who is energized by physical contact and affection. She always hovers her hands and arms over my body. She openly screams to the world that we're "best friends" when I only see her as a friend that I just so happen to be around with a lot.

We are currently nearing the end of our Senior year of high school. I am 18 and she is 17. She and I knew each other freshman year but we weren't really friends. Sophomore year we became closer including 2 other people in our group. However, Junior year came and thats when it started. She started playfully hitting me and acting like a baby to me, using baby talk and calling me "mommy" in public. I was okay with it at first but then it became excessive. When we were on serious topics she'd be sarcastic with me or talk to me like I'm dumb. I started questioning if our friendship was even worth it because of how terrible she made me feel.

She often talks about how in freshman year she was jealous of all the people I hung out with because she wanted to be my friend and I rarely even saw her. She tells me that If I was a guy I'd be her ideal boyfriend and she'd want to have sex with me. She openly says she has a crush on me and wants to have sex with me. She just completely creeps me out..and I'm Bi! Every time she does that, I tell her to stop or I make a disgusted look at her she just laughs at me.

I am most annoyed by the fact she acts like a child. She jumps up and down when she is excited and goos like a baby. She is obsessed with stuffed toys which I don't mind because regardless of your age it's good to always be connected to your childhood. But she has no limit. If she wants a stuffed toy or sweets and I tell her to not eat sweets or buy toys because she gets too hyper or has them already, she buys it anyway and says in a whiny baby voice, "BUT I WANTED IT!!!" while shaking her body. I tell her not to do that and she says "It's okay because I'm cute". It's not cute though. It just comes off as immature and then she claims that she has matured.

I know I sound like a terrible person and friend but that is what I feared of the most. I have no one to rant to about her because all her friends are my friends and you know how high schoolers are. I only tell my parents or my siblings about how annoying she is. I don't want to be seen as a bad person. If I want to break off a friendship with her I'd have to lose all my friends. I was watching youtube videos of 'Best Friends do this or that' and I just imagined that if I was the one in the video with her, it would be extremely hard to compliment her. Is it normal that I feel this way? That I hate a friend who hasn't necessarily done anything bad besides be annoying? Am I a bad person? Should I feel really bad about this? because I do.

I try to always see the good in people but I feel that for her, her annoying acts just overpower her good qualities.

Please help me out. Please.

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  • Mario214
    7 years ago

    Ellenna is right. Not responding to her will stop fueling her childish behaviour.

    I hope it will become better with time and you don't have to be annoyed anymore or break your friendship.

    I wish you the best.

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  • Fenrirr
    7 years ago

    tbh she sounds really creepy and if i had a friend that acted like that i'd drop them immediately

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    • RoseIsabella
      7 years ago

      That's pretty much what I was thinking.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    You can detach from her without losing your other friends. Going along with her childish behaviour is in fact supporting it so you'd be doing her a favour if you just didn't respond to it in any way, negative or positive: just move a bit further away from her and DO NOT RESPOND except to maybe shrug your shoulders or shake your head.

    No one can then accuse you of being nasty to her, you've just stopped responding to her.

    It's going to be hard because you've let it go on for far too long and ended up hating her.

    She does sound annoying and I'll bet others find it annoying too and are probably glad you're letting her direct it all at you.

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    • lillygirl
      7 years ago

      It's true. Ellie always gives nice advice. She is so cool. :)

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        Thanks and I quite like being called Ellie

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  • Noa
    7 years ago

    Oh my God, I really identify myself with you! When I was younger, I used to be friend of a girl who wasn't the most appropiate for me. She was that kind of person who always wants to call people's attention, for example, she enyoyed being "weird" and used to do always the opposite of the majority of the people. We were suppose to be "best friends" when we were around 9-11 years old, and like your friend, she proclaimed that we were "best friends", even thought she hadn't asked for my opinion. In fact, I considered my best friends other two girls, but she tried to separate us. For example, I was speaking to them and them she came and said to them: we want to be alone, because we are best friends, so leave us alone. She usually said things like: if you don't do this, we are not friends anymore. When we were with other people, she spoke to them about me, my likes and my feelings like if I had no a personal opinion, and treated me like if I were dumb.

    I haven't be friend with her since we were around 12, and I don't miss her at all. In fact, now I hate so much this girl, not only for this, but also for many other reasons. Like your friend, sometimes she acted like a baby, even when she was 16 (I haven't spoken a single word to her since then). I'm sorry to have written such a long paragraph about my own life, but I wanted to say that it's completely normal: you hate your best friend because she's not really your best friend, just like me and my "friend". You shouldn't waste your time with people that you don't appreciate. It's clear that she is very inmature and annoying, and she is doing to you more harm than good. You should speak to her clearly and say all the things that annoy you about her. Don't be shy or think that you are being rude: it's your life, and you don't have to feel bad for people who don't deserve that. The faster you end with the problem, the better.

    I hope that everything goes well for you!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    Nope because a best friend shouldn't be hated

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