Is it normal that i hate my appearance this much

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I know that it's not normal but...Top to bottom...I really am not happy with my appearance. I'll start from the top...

1. My hair is really boring and thin, I can't do anything with it and it's either too straight or too frizzy! I've thought about dying it but I don't want it to get even more fried and damaged.
2. My skin is absolutely horrible. I've had acne since I was about 12 and I still have dark marks from then. I'm 21 now and although it has cleared up, it's not showing signs of stopping!! Recently I feel depressed because I'm getting these breakouts that hurt...from god knows what. I don't smoke, drink, touch my face etc. I drink a lot of healthy fluids. I don't have the perfect diet but I'm not overweight or anything. I buy the food that I can afford. I wash my face morning and night and sometimes 3 times. I exfoliate too. I literally have a skin ritual but yet I have acne all over my face. I also have dark marks on my chest and back. I'm cursed.
3. My forehead is really big and wide. I really resemble an alien. When I take pictures of myself, it looks huge. I also have a big stupid nose that I got bullied for. I never really noticed it but I notice when I take pictures of myself that it looks swollen and ugly. My bottom lip sticks out and my chin looks sunken in. So I have a huge forehead, big bottom lip and no chin! I've gone so far as to edit my pictures so that I could see how I would look if I got plastic surgery. I also have darkness/bags under my eyes (probably from horrible sleeping patterns). My eyes also look crossed and my mouth is crooked and seems like it's getting worse. I also have a mild overbite which makes my smile look dumb and fake sometimes.
4. I have the most stupid looking belly button...it's like an innie outie; it sticks out at the top but goes in at the bottom. I suck my stomach in to make it look somewhat normal, but of course that won't change anything.
5. Overall, I dislike my body. I have a thin muscular build but not exactly in a good way. My arms are too stocky and my shoulders are too broad and I have almost no hips. Like I said, I'm thin but I have stretch marks all over my hip area and butt, although I haven't really grown since I was a teenager so I don't know why I have them! They look horrible. I have okay sized thighs but the bottom half of my legs are ugly and skinny. They look like sticks - no shape to them at all. I've tried exercises and although I've gotten muscle, they haven't gotten any bigger. So I give up on that. I've also tried to gain weight but I don't know where my food goes. I guess it just burns right off before my body can absorb it :( my boobs suck. I'm okay with them being small but they're flat and look like pancakes...I'm still young, they shouldn't look like that.
6. My legs have a lot of marks on them from hitting them and shaving and they won't heal. I've used cocoa butter and they lighten up but they won't go away completely. I look like I've been through a war. The scars are so ugly and noticeable.
7. My feet are so stupid. My smaller toes bend downward and on one of my feet, the second toe overlaps the big toe. My feet are also really skinny and veiny, just like my hands.
8. I have hair in odd places...I feel like a man. I've always been hairy but I have little dark hairs on my knuckles, under my belly button, chest and on my jawline. I absolutely HATE this and it ruins my self esteem.

I really hate this...sometimes I just want to crawl into a hole because deep down I know that I'm horrible. People lie to me with compliments but I know the truth and I don't think that I can live like this. Also, I've had people make fun of me and comment on some of the things I mentioned - my forehead, nose, acne, veiny hands, boobs, eyes, body, legs, etc. so my feelings are not illogical or irrational. My mom thinks that I need help because most of my issues stem from my appearance but she's also critical about my appearance. A lot of my family members have said things that made me feel bad about myself. So can you blame me? The only thing I like about myself at this point is my personality and the fact that I know I'm a good person. But that doesn't count in this world.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    It sounds like youre nitpicking little insignifant details. You should feel good about yourself regardless of what anyone thinks because the people who matter wont nitpick little things.

    Also doing good things and personality are very important and are actually the things that matter to people who aren't shallow. Who needs shallow people anyways?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Feel free to skip over this fellow IINers, because this is a long Anthian-sympathies comment.

    I am so much like you it's not even funny. Well, I was like you. I obsessed over every minute flaw and made it a huge deal, my self image was so warped that I saw nothing beautiful about me at all because what I considered flaws stood out like red flags.

    My hair was too straight, too boring, I felt fat, average eyes, acne, backne, wide nose, man voice, knobby knees, fat face, glasses, buck teeth, blah blah, the list goes on and on, and I would completely obsess over flaws like those. I couldn't look at people because I felt too ugly for them to look at, and I also felt like people were lying to me to make me feel better about myself. My entire self image was warped.

    Thinking about myself made me a very ugly person on the inside. I was very insecure and jealous of others, and I was so negative about life and everything!! Looking back, even three years ago, I realize how shallow I was.

    I think we both have twisted self images. I have learned to control myself and mold my appearance into something I find bearable, but I feel so bad for people like you. You remind me of how I was at my lowest and I don't want anyone to feel that way because it is a miserable way to live. Honestly, everything my family and friends ever told me fell on deaf ears and I kind of expect the advice coming from me to be the same way with you. Only you can snap yourself out of your negative funk!

    So basically here is some advice from someone who knows dem feels.

    Your flaws are not nearly as noticeable to other people as they are to you. You obsess over these flaws, which are really things people don't give two shits about. In fact, cross your belly button, feet, hands, leg marks, forehead, and hair in odd places off your list of dislikes right now. Everyone has body "oddities" like that. They are normal and they are minor.

    Confidence is truly powerful and beautiful. This is the hardest one for me because I felt like there was nothing to be confident about. Sooo I chased my ideal "look" to help me feel more confident.

    If you truly dislike things about your body, then change them--just don't be extreme. For example, I hated straight hair so I got a perm. I hated dirty blond hair so I dyed it black. I hated glasses so I got contacts, fiddled with acne treatments until my face got clear, and focused on ways to minimize my flaws like my nose. All I am saying is if you are not content with yourself, stop being miserable and do something about it. It's amazing how much someone can change their appearance if it doesn't suit them. Bangs could help cover and downplay your forehead for instance.

    This is a long comment already so I should probably leave it at that, reply if you have any questions or anything. I hope this makes sense and I didn't ramble too much.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      you have plenty to be confident about <3

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    I would change so much about the way I look if I could.

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/77/d0/7c/77d07cff5bf0ed2cf6a52abfebcde2ec.jpg

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      • Aliceee93
        9 years ago

        I look like that now :'(

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        • shuggy-chan
          9 years ago

          hahaha OMG no you dont =*

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    At least you are young and intelligent. But seriously, everyone is beautiful in their own unique way. It sounds cliched but it's true. Be happy and optimistic, because inner contentment and self-actualization is genuinely infectious and people do pick up on subtle hints in your personality about whether you convey positive energy. And it can inspire others to fulfill their own potential. Being true to yourself is the most beautiful quality that anyone can ever have.

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  • kinkykitten
    9 years ago

    Lol im not gonna tell you ...you are beutiful.Probably you are really ugly.Im glad im beatiful :)

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  • ExoticMayanSaturday
    9 years ago

    Spread the medicine to the people!!!
    http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YsgP8LkEopM

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  • seakelp
    9 years ago

    I am not attracted to people who don't properly break their writing into paragraphs.

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