Is it normal that i hate it when people don't look me in the eyes?

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I understand that some people have problems making eye contact as I used to be a bit shy when I was younger but I managed to force myself overcome it. Now however, it almost makes me feel a little self conscious when someone doesn't look me in the eye when talking to me. It's a respect thing I guess.

I'm finishing my last year of high school so I do talk to a lot of people I'm not necessarily friends with because school is a very social place. Even if I'm talking to a girl and I can tell she's nervous or a little shy it still bugs me when they're talking to me and looking somewhere else. The best way for a girl to impress me is to look me right in the eyes and smile when she's talking.

Keep in mind I'm not stupid so I know if I'm annoying someone. I'm talking about the people that don't feel comfortable with eye contact in general. I know it's a stupid thing but it bugs me and it immediately lowers my opinion of the person.

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  • Noodleflower
    12 years ago

    I look people in the eye when I talk to them because it means i respect them. So I'm with you on that one actually it's much better when someone looks in the eyes.Because you know your being sirous or funny or nice ... Well I'm not sure but you can tell my feelings better looking at my eyes js(:

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  • erikim0621
    12 years ago

    I HATE looking people in the eye..

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    • justsomekidfromcanada
      12 years ago

      Why though? If your talking to the opposite sex it just makes the conversation so much more personal. If your talking to the same sex it shows respect. Is it just because it makes you uncomfortable? I just don't understand.

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  • RinTin
    12 years ago

    I personally don't care unless I know for a fact the person isn't looking at me because they don't care what I'm saying. If they're shy or have problems with eye contact I'm okay with it. It's the reason they're doing it that matters to me. I'm shy but I don't have a problem with eye contact.

    but if you're at a job interview or your boss is talking to you it would be disrespectful not to look them in the eye. Actually I guess it depends on the situation. If you're just meeting someone you should probably make some eye contact.

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  • jellokatt
    12 years ago

    for some reason, i reserve direct eye contact for close friends and family. i think it's because i've known too many sleazy sales people and liars who use the "maintain very direct eye contact" thing as a way to try to get people to trust them.

    i feel the same way about physical contact (even very harmless stuff, like a pat on the shoulder) also because of the type of people i've noted above.

    i somehow see it as disrespectful to keep prolonged eye contact, or touch someone i don't know very well.... sort of like i'm intruding on their personal space.

    i am also far less likely to trust someone who does these sorts of things - sort of like they're trying too hard to make me trust them.

    then again, i'm a bit odd.

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    • jellokatt
      12 years ago

      oh, i should note, i'm not trying to insinuate that is what you're doing. i understand that you consider it a sign of respect. i'm just stating my immediate and biased reaction to it.

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  • sleepyhead
    12 years ago

    For some cultures it's disrespectful if you look at them in the eyes you never know how the person you're dealing with was raised...

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  • nobleserpent
    12 years ago

    You shouldn't let people cast Eyes upon you; that's how your Immortality is lost. Tell me, what do all Dead People have in common?

    -They were seen-

    Thus if you never let a Human Soul set eyes upon you, you should live forever.

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    • Frosties
      12 years ago

      What about aborted babies? Aren't they both dead and unseen?

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  • ChaoticBunny
    9 years ago

    I feel really awkward looking people in the eye when talking with them. I get all shy and blush and I can't help it.
    I still respect them though.

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  • superpandapear
    10 years ago

    *cough* aspergers *cough*

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  • Sunshine:)
    10 years ago

    I don't like looking people in the eyes. It makes me nervous and I start to tear up for some reason :(

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  • Eternal_Wisdom
    12 years ago

    i don't see the real connection between respect & looking someone in the eye..

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    • justsomekidfromcanada
      12 years ago

      It means a hell of a lot more than shaking their hand in my opinion.

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