Is it normal that i hate it when people don't hear me out?

I'm a very good and active listener, but can never seem to have people listen to everything I have to say. I usually try to make a point by fully elaborating but I get cut off by people who just give me their opinion on it. Plus, they can't seem to shut up about it. Still, I'm polite and give them room to speak awaiting my turn, but again I get cut off. I am intensely irritated by this and its starting to be a problem. Is this normal??

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  • wigsplitz

    I see what you are saying, I understand where you are coming from....I am definitely more of a listener than a talker myself....that said, I have a person in my life who is just unbearable to listen to. It's her manner of speech, her pace, her predictability. It takes her 10 minutes to say what can be said in 30 seconds, and the whole time she's talking I already know her point, what she's going to say, where she's going with this. I become fidgety, annoyed and can't wait till she's done. I don't interrupt people, I agree that that's very rude, but it's soooo hard to not interrupt her-it takes everything I've got.

    I have another friend who is a big talker, whenever we talk it's mostly him, but the way he differs from this other lady I know is that he speaks at a quicker pace, is humorous, not too predictable at all, so I don't mind sitting there silent for 10 minutes while he speaks.

    I don't know how you speak, you might be concise and direct for all I know, I just wanted to say that it's possible it's your manner of speaking. I don't mean it in any kind of insulting way either.

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    • Hitting both angles. I get what you're saying

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  • When they cut you off just say " hey!! I listen to you when you talk so don't cut me off when it's my turn!! Let me finish please!! :) "

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  • carterjm4

    Try telling them whats bugging you, or find some new friends.

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  • chubbawubba69

    Sorry I wasn't paying attention.

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    • flutterhigh

      Yeah, did you say something?

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  • Dizzee

    My friends do that ALL the flippin' time. I used to never interrupt them, but they would always interrupt me. Then I have to explain myself after they interrupted when I was JUST ABOUT TO GET TO THE POINT. So now, I interrupt them before they get a chance to finish. Pay back time~

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  • Ldizzy1234

    Thats probably all we can do. haha

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  • Ldizzy1234

    Of course its normal that you're angry nobody listens to you. I feel the same way. I always feel like nobody ever bothers to listen to me. Everybody wants to be heard. Its normal. I wish I knew how to change the fact that no one ever listens to me, though.

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    • You and me both. Maybe we can listen to each other at least?

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  • Who_Fan4Life

    Whip it out. It would be awkward yes, but people WILL stop talking.

    I know from experience...

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  • Lynxikat

    Dude. I feel like I have the same problem O_o I feel like I'm the listener half the time and when I try to speak, no one can hear me...

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  • joybird

    I think the key to this might be when you said "everything I want to say ... usually try to make a point by fully elaborating". A lot of people just want to hear your views and maybe why, but in real terms you shouldn't take the floor for more than 2 minutes max.

    I go to lunch (rarely) with my cousin's friends who are real bores - each of them could talk for 10 minutes about how they left a room! F**k I wish they would leave the room! God forgive me, but I had to learn how to interrupt them so as not to fall asleep into my soup. Plus I have zero interest in their opinion or hobby or children or whatever ...

    I'd say listen and learn how other people deliver what they have to say, and how they are received by your peers. Then you can try to copy that technique.

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    • Yes I get you but when we are collaborating, exchanging stories or trying to give advice it's kinda stupid to interrupt, savvy?

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      • joybird

        I don't know it it's 'stupid' exactly, as they may regard it as a necessary evil but you do need to work out why they feel the need to be so rude.

        If one of them does it all the time, watch carefully how they treat the others. They may be regarded as the 'leader' and so the others let him / her away with it.

        Maybe they just have the attention span of gnats?! Or they aren't truly your friends :o(

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        • Argh!!!! You totally have a point there. Thanks.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    If they don't want to listen to you... perhaps you're tilting at windmills.

    You may want to consider not even talking to them since they don't care.
    Or ... yeah smart's idea isn't bad. cut them off too.

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  • Smartasscookie

    Cut them off, in my group of friends that is the only way to get heard. Keep your words right to the point, short and sweet

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  • MissClaire

    The best way that I have ever seen this dealt with is:
    when someone interrups you, stop mid word like actually CUT yourself off - it made the other person reaslize that they were a jerk and they stopped doing it
    I have tried it and it works pretty well :)

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    • Nice I like this one.

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      • MissClaire

        np - I did it the other day and it worked :)

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  • Solophonic

    People only remember 20% of what they hear, so it's best to try to keep things simple.

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  • Yeah, some people just don't listen as good as us. I don't mind, I love letting people talk who love talking because you learn a lot about them ^_^ Perhaps you could interrupt them to show them how it feels.

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