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My bf and I have been together for almost two years...We are suppose to be getting married. Lately all he ever does is play on the computer doing god knows what on here or he's playing his ps3. I try to talk to him but it gets nowhere and usually ends up into an argument. We used to do everything together and now practically nothing.
Play the video game with him. Maybe he doesn't want to do what "you" want to do, in which case, why should "he" give up what he likes to do because you won't spend time with him because you don't enjoy doing what "he" does, but expect him to do things that you like, in which he doesn't like?
This is a problem girlfriends have. They expect men to do things with them in which they don't like, but if men want them to spend time doing things they like to do, such as playing video games, he is a bad boyfriend? Bullshit.
oh please...girlfriends have this problem...what the fuck happened to living life and going places and doing fun things...I've played video games with him and I liked it but when you do it most of the time and I mean everyday all day long you have an issue...I've tried to do all of those things, but I cannot bring myself to do those things all of the fricking time...life is short and I don't want it to pass me by because all my bf wants to do is play video games and flirt with other chicks on the net...He preaches about how moral he is and that even thinking of someone of the opposite sex is cheating...when he does it himself...If he'd rather call everything off he needs to stop his bullshit excuses and just let me go...
Bullcrap. There are far more men doing things their girlfriends want to do than the reverse, by far.
Your next part demonstrates my point. You are basically saying "You like doing things that don't involve going outside that are "fun things", and stay in and do things you find fun".
You are basically saying "What you are doing isn't fun, do what I want, it's funner". It may be fun to "you", but if someone doesn't want to do it, then that's because "they" don't find it fun.
Well maybe he likes doing it? Incase you haven't noticed, most males play video games. Video games give guys a sort of pleasure a girlfriend can't.
He obviously has not done it "all day long, every day", people have died of that, and if he did do it like you are explaining, no doubt he's most likely be dead.
The flirt bit I am not going to get in to, what flirting is to one may be just normal talk to another.
Nobody is forcing you to stay with him, he isn't stopping you from going, you are. If you have a problem, then leave him.
I think you should try and do some self evaluation. He wouldn't be spending that much amount of time on computer or ps3 if everything's fine in your relationship in the first place. I mean you both are about to get married and by this point you should be able to confront your bf if something's bothering you.
That's marriage for ya. All jokes aside, next time he's not doing anything. Tell him how you feel and that you want to spend more time together.
The BF here. Hey Ang. Maybe I don't feel like sitting around watching re-runs of CSI Miami all day, every day. Also, I throw out suggestions all the time for stuff to do but you say no because it's not what YOU want to do. I like playing Fallout and getting on IIN. So what, that's what I like to do. You like to watch on demand movies, I do that, you like to go for walks, I do that, you like to go to wallmart and shit, I do that, you like to sit outside and smoke, I do that with you, you like to meet new people, you do that. All of those things, are things YOU like to do. And we do them all the time. When is the last time you played Fallout with me without going "noooo thats boooooring. Lets DO something", implying its only "doing something" when it's something YOU want to do.
I'd say you should hold off on marriage until you can sort this out. It seems like you're just not compatible, something else is going on or you're only now realizing your communication issues. Just talk to him about it. Have a serious discussion on how you feel/what you want from him and hopefully it'll be resolved. If it doesn't, I'd seriously consider taking a few steps back.
Well I have to say I went through his history and I'm glad I did...he does it to me all of the time...I found out he's flirting with another girl on-line...to be honest I'm glad I found out before I married him. I'm upset but not at the same time...it's a relief to know but why drag me from Michigan to Colorado just to flirt with other girls...I'm going home...screw this...who knows what else he's up too...
He's broken a trust and I believe if you can flirt on-line, by the way it wasn't harmless flirting, you will eventually cheat and I'm not okay with catching a disease...thank-you for all your input...it greatly appreciated
I have mentioned this before in previous posts but I would like you to realize that for a guy to give another girl compliments or even flirt does not ncecessarily have anything to do with your relationship. Guys simply like the attention of women because it strokes their ego. I know it is diffucult to deal with but even if he enjoys the attention of other women he could very well be absolutely and completely be commited to you and your relationship. He is just a dumbass like all guys tend to be and we need attention. All I am trying to say is to not discard the relationship just because he enjoys attention..
I hate to be blunt but if he is too into his video games to show his true feelings to you than maybe he isn't the right guy. Important warning. If he doesn't fix his little gaming issue do not marry him. If he does than feel free but don't marry a slob!