Is it normal that i hate having sex because i hate my ugly body?

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I am a 35 year old Mom of 3 children. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I weigh 40 pounds more now than when we first got together. I hate myself so much and I cringe when he touches me. He says he loves me so much and doesn't care about my weight gain, but it doesn't help me get over this. I have a massive fear of having sex. All I can think of is how disgusting I am and it just ruins things for me. I know women who are much heavier than me, and have a very good sex life. Why can't I get over how ugly I feel. Why is it not enough that my boyfriend wants me? The anxiety I feel about this topic is so severe that I actually feel like I have breathing problems just speaking of it. Normal or not?

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57% Normal
Based on 7 votes (4 yes)
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  • Unimportant
    10 years ago

    Very few people are 100% happy with their bodies the way they are. Apparently there are some ways to learn accepting your own body with its imperfections, although I don't know how effective those methods are.

    If you have the time and the money you could seek professional help. If not, you can find advice by googling it - if you haven't already done that.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    Yes this is normal and I could see why you would feel this way. I am not being judgmental but maybe you could go on a diet or get on a training regiment. It would help your self esteem issues and be healthier for you. Its good that your partner loves you no-matter what is shows they really care about you. Lots of people overweight have issues about it. So its not like its abnormal to feel bad.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    I think I'm ugly but I still love sex. It's the girls who don't want to have it with me.

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  • Barugel_Azulay
    10 years ago

    I hate having sex because I hate my body's ugly performance.

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    I don't know how normal it is but how much do you weigh?

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