Is it normal that i hate being in relationships?

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Hi everyone,

Ever since I can remember, I've hated every relationship I've been in; it's not that I necessarily hate the person I'm in the relationship with, I just hate the idea of being in one.

I'm a 19 year old, open bisexual male, and at first I exclusively dated women. I thought that my issue with relationships originally was the fact that I might not be able to get along with women as much as I would be able to with men, so I started dating men. That did not help my issue and I still find myself hating the thought of each relationship I get myself into.

I suppose my main issue is the fact that I feel guilty for having fun without my current partner, mainly because when I'm having fun I tend to flirt a lot (with both sexes), then feel bad about it afterwards. In addition to this, I always feel as if I'm going to astronomically destroy the person I'm with. (not because I think I'm the best they'll have or something, I think on the contrary) I have such a hard time hurting them, so I put off breaking up with them for long periods of time.

So my question for you all is: Is it normal for hate being in relationships? In addition to this, can anyone think up any ways to maybe make the experience more enjoyable?

Thanks!!

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  • Knitpicky
    13 years ago

    It's called dating, go out with whomever you choose when you choose and not be singled with someone. I loathe relationships. I get about 3 months into them, spend another 3 trying to 'fall out' of it, but people don't take hints so I'm usually the 'bad guy' and have to break it off because of hating it...but I wouldn't say no to people taking me out every once in a while.

    I think it's something to do with genes and longing for the good ol days when courting and all that fluff happened before the relationship started. Anymore, you agree to a dinner and a movie, and it's instantly itemhood whether you like it or not.

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  • NobodyKnows
    9 years ago

    I'm 26 years old and I HATE dating. Hate it. I see nothing but a string of stupid rituals, fake smiles, and pretending to care about each other's problems when you obviously don't. Not worth the fifteen minutes of sex you get from it.

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  • samson_bowbarrow
    12 years ago

    and also, you can never go wrong with a friend ship slowly turning into a relation ship. you never know. it might work

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  • samson_bowbarrow
    12 years ago

    I was always single so I never had the experience in dating.
    I agree with knitpicker, try courting or dating.
    if you were to court the person you would treat it like a speed date and ask them a bit about them selves.
    just like a date.
    its ok to court many girls/ (or guys for this matter)
    at once because they don't really know whats going on and it won't be considered cheating. I haven't really mastered it but maybe you can give it a try. and while your doing that, ask them about their weekend. and like I heard on here once, listen to what the person is saying and when there's a dramatic pause take the opportunity to change the subject. who knows that just might be your thing.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    It's not for everyone, or every age group. Maybe you'll learn to like it when a better candidate comes along. If not, no big deal. I also hate relationships. Just thinking about them makes my palms sweat. Theyre definitely not for me, at least in this stage of my life thus far.

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