Is it normal that i hate being black?

I would like to see where you read that the average black person IQ is 85.

Dude, I would stop caring about your skin colour so much. Trust me, the only person who cares about it, is you. Just chill out, live your life. Skin colour shouldn't define who you are, it's the actions you make and the company you keep.

That is less an ethnicity thing and more an upbringing thing. Unfortunately african-americans are still discriminated against regularly, which is the cause of the terrible statistics. It's not that black people are naturally "dumber" or more aggressive, it's that they don't always get the same life choices available to most white kids.

I can relate... Im black. Growing up i went to all white schools. I wasn't "black enough" for blacks, and not white enough to identify with white people. It's rough figuring out where you fit in. I read a lot of the responses and most people lack perspective. It's easy to tell someone not to worry about color if your white. They say the color of your skin doesn't matter in this day and age, but when I look around my office and I'm the only black architect in the entire company... I often question the same things that you do.

Relax, you are not "black". Don't believe me, then put your hand against a surface that is black. Your skin pigmentation is probably light tan-brown, light olive-brown, to dark brown. Am I correct?
What you need to do, is to stop identifying yourself in this way. You are not in a 'race'. You are descended from one or more tribes. So, what you need to do, is to get yourself tested genetically, to find out who your ancestors were. Then you can look for other people who have a similar genetic makeup as your own. You might be surprised.
Don't forget about looking in other regions (countries).

Now you have something in common, to start new relationships.

Do whatever makes you happy. Be the proof that not every black person fits the negative stereotype. It sounds like you are a good person and have a lot going for you so don't form yourself into the mold society sees you as just be yourself.

Use this situation to your advantage; set an example for your people.

Stop dwelling on the negative and instead concentrate on getting an education and proving that not ALL blacks are losers. Obviously, the black girls you're dating are ghetto rats -- the kind you see on the Judge Joe Brown Show. In college, you'll meet a better class of black girls. As long as you allow this to bother you and give in to your feelings, you're part of the problem!

I can't say I understand what you're going through. But it's not your race, it's black culture. It's not even just that though, it's about culture period, and our fear to stand out from it. There are parts of white culture that I am disgusted by. And maybe I do understand because whenever someone brings up racism or anything like that, I feel like the devil. Nothing I can do can atone for the sins of my ancestors.

But you shouldn't feel ashamed. You are living proof that it is not the colour of someones skin that makes them who they are, it's about upbringing and more importantly individuality.

The color of your skin does not define who you are in any way.

Stop caring about the color of your skin. It's irrelevent.
Everything you're worrying about is just stupid. Feeling like a traitor for dating someone just because they have diferent color skin? Im sorry but that's just ridiculous. Date who ever you want and stop compairing yourself to others (whatever their race is)