Is it normal that i hate all religious holidays especially christmas?

My Mom tells me I've hated Christmas since I was three years old. I am 46 now and have always hated the holidays, but always go out of guilt. I am also a vegetarian, so when I don't eat the fatted pig everyone looks at me like I have worms crawling out of my eyes. This year I was told I have a stick up my ass. We had a family argument over this which I told them I was never spending another holiday with them. I am sure most of you work and I only had a few days off, so I was actually tired on Christmas, exhausted actually. I feel like nobody gets me and not sure how I was born into this family. They basically resent that I don't eat their food, but make me feel guilty if I don't come to functions, and treat their kids like the baby Jesus. I just need to know if this is normal or if I need to have a brain transplant and get over it and show up and play nice nice every friggin holiday. Sorry I am just venting but would actually like to hear some comments. I think the money spent on Christmas presents is ridiculous and nobody has money and everyone stressed out. My sister had to borrow money from my mom to buy her kids presents this year.... ?? hELP! Another question if my Mom knows how much I hate the holidays, why does she insist that I come? Why can't she respect my way of life and being a vegetarian, this entire Christmas she kept shoving meat in my face. I love my family but would rather see them any day of the week than a holiday. Just sayin. Thanks in advance. Did I mention I was 46... Good grief.

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  • Arabia

    You should become Muslim and celebrate our religious holidays instead. No need to eat fatty pig on Eid at my house :) lol

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  • coolio75650932

    what about halloween? isnt that a christian thing...for scaring off the devil or somthing...

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    • spacecowgirl

      to make matters worse I am a humanist... dont believe in the baby jesus thing (there may have been a baby jesus but cmon the whole virgin birth thing)... or Santa! The holiday is based on a lie that your parents tell you from when you were a small child. It's just so wrong to me. Halloween doesn't bother me because you don't have to buy people presents on credit card and it's kinda fun actually! Christmas would be fun if the pressure and lies and false pretense was taken out of it. just my thoughts today, thanks for the replies. much appreciated!

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      • coolio75650932

        I mean i'm athiest but I still do christmas,easter,etc for my kids...I mean dude...free stuff >.<

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  • spacecowgirl

    Thanks for the reply, my post sounds really harsh now that I re-read it! I guess I wrote in the heat of the moment. Although I still have the same feelings, I hardly have time off all year and when I do I spend it in someone else's nightmare. I would like to stay home and watch the christmas parade on my own tv in my own living room with my own tree eating my own food, with my dog, relaxing, not living someone else's version of the perfect holiday, and the travel nightmare, if that makes sense. I have been uninvited to Christmas next year so I'm off the hook. I live far away so its' always a week-long dreaded affair and no vacation pay for the week just the one day. Maybe if I had anything in common with my family it would be different, but I swear I was adopted. When I talk about my stuff they roll their eyes, and when they talk about their stuff I roll my eyes on the inside... know what i mean? yes I love them but does that mean we have to spend the holidays together, can't we just love each other, and call it good?

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  • Maya05

    Ive had these feelings towards holidays a lot in the past few years. I feel guilted into celebrating holidays. Particularly Christmas. I hate the whole gift giving tradition. It doesn't make any sense and it feels forced and fake. I only participate because if I don't I'll be considered "unfestive" or just rude and disrespectful. I don't have a problem with seeing my family, I just have a problem with how everyone celebrates holidays. To me a holiday should be used to relax in whatever way I feel like. If anything most holidays are more stressful and tiring then normal work days.

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  • Pika-girl

    WHAT!? It's religious, it's special! Your family, they're all there! So, change that mood!

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