Is it normal that i had a child with a man 30 years older than me?

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I am a young college student who is very laid-pack and goal orientated, and I was just curious to know if it is actually more normal for younger women to conceive and give birth to a child from a man who is 20+ years her senior than what is more socially known? I simply ask this because at twenty-three I became romantically involved with a fifty-four year old man, and we began to spend time together, and then slowly over time we fell in love. We have been in a relationship for three years and we have been cohabitating for two years. Last year I gave birth to our child shortly before I turned twenty-five, and with the birth of our child it just seems that we've grown closer. We, ironically, seem to share similar views on certain things and he's very good to me and a great, loving, father. Also, by looking at him, most people would place his age more toward early-mid forties because he doesn't have deep wrinkles, liver-spots, and he has very little gray in his hair; plus he's energetic and outgoing.

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  • tigressdawn
    10 years ago

    You know this isn't normal. If you knew it was you wouldn't need approval from online strangers.

    But if it makes you happy, who cares? You're both consenting adults.

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    • Cellbiologyphiliac
      10 years ago

      It's not that I need approval from online strangers, because who I decide to date and have kids with is my personal choice, but I was just kind of curious to see what people would say about the whole situation.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    10 years ago

    My guy is 14 years older than me and I have every intention of having kids with him. No it's not normal but who really gives a fuck if two people are happy?

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  • Tarkio
    10 years ago

    I think this was written by a man who is trying to get support for his fantasies, and wants to come on to a young girl.

    I don't believe that this would work at all. I dated men much older than me (but not 30 years older) and it seemed to work at first, because of the sex, but it quickly eroded after the third year. He took away the best years of my life, and I had no friends my own age.

    Keep it in your pants old man.

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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    This type of relationship works often, but sometimes runs In to trouble when the older of the couple get well into their sixties. So make the most of it, your such a blessing

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  • jeebley
    10 years ago

    You certainly framed this in a really positive light... Do you foresee any sorts of problems?

    If you're both happy and have a loving and supportive environment for your child, then that's all that matters.
    Uncommon, that's all.

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    • Cellbiologyphiliac
      10 years ago

      The only issue that I see is that there is a good possibility that he will end up passing away before I do and I'm left to raise the child alone. I mean you figure, when my child is twenty-five, I'll be fifty and her dad will be eighty-one (but, I hope that by the age of twenty-five my child is able to take care of herself and living a full-productive life).

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      • jeebley
        10 years ago

        There is that. But even with the age difference, she'll probably still be an independent adult when it happens, like you say. And really, it has to happen at some point. How you both deal with it depends on both of you at the time. It wouldn't be something I'd worry about...

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