Is it normal that i got upset with my boyfriend when drinking

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Okay, so I was in a long distance relationship for about 5 months. We had a few misunderstandings about communication, and many times the distance would get the best of me and I would feel very alone. I was the one who seemed to be putting in more effort, but I also worked less hours than my boyfriend and was done with school. During out time together, there were two times when I was drinking that I became mean and started a fight with him. Once was when I ended up in a scary situation and tried calling him and he pressed ignore and when I told him what was happening he did not seem concerned so I flipped out, more than I would, and told him he wasn't a good boyfriend because he wasn't there for me. Another time was when a good guy friend of mine started sexually harassing me and completly stranded me in NYC. I took a taxi to the train station and texted my boyfriend what happened and asked him to text with me while I waited in the train station. I was upset and crying and he basically made me feel like I was annoying him. I got upset and once again told him that he should be there for me if he cared about me and got mean towards him.

My question is do you think it was the alcohol making me out of line or do you think I had a right to be upset?

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  • lol_bamf
    13 years ago

    I think you should stop putting yourself in these situations. :/

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  • DannyKanes
    13 years ago

    The alcohol just made you realize the truth, that this long distance relationship looks like it's not going to work. Sorry, but I reckon you should break up with him and move on and find someone else :-) Good luck

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  • woahitsmaria
    13 years ago

    I for one am going to say that you definitely have a right to be upset. I am like that too, minus the drinking, but they are with you because you are someone special. They have a choice, if they don't care they can leave when they want, but if he loves you and cares about you, therefore he should make the attempts to show you, but acting like he doesn't give a damn isn't helping and ignoring you, just doesn't seem right to me, and would greatly upset me too.

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  • jessicia16
    13 years ago

    get with an older guy, like mid or late 40's ... you bf sounds like a typical brainless child ^___^ an older guy will fill you in ways he couldnt ever ... plus you will enjoy life rather then enduring it.

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  • jbmitchell999
    13 years ago

    High maintenance.

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  • Jackie41887
    13 years ago

    and im 25

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  • Jackie41887
    13 years ago

    yea, i usually do not get this way in past relationships and it kind of made me wonder if i kind of pulled him into these situations with me as sort of a test subconsciously

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  • Bbygirl.
    13 years ago

    It seems like the alcohol makes you more emotional. Which is normal to mee, but you shouldn't have to feel like you're making more of an effort than he is. So ithink u had a right to be mad, & should try to communicate why u were. Over the phone or in person. Texting always causes miscommunication.

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  • Jackie41887
    13 years ago

    yea, i was thinking that too. i just felt bad because i flipped out more than i normally would have, and i know its hard for him to be there because of the distance, but it still hurt my feelings even after the alcohols effects had subsided

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