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A Bi guy asked me out on a date but I thought he just wanted to go out drinking like boys do. It was a bit awkward when we both realized. Has this ever happened to anyone?
Hahaha that's much better than people thinking you had a full blown relationship with a butch lesbian who you thought was just your friend for over a year and you not know about it.
Haha, no. This must have been hilarious. People should be more straightforward with stuff like this. Down with the obscure hints.
I do believe this is nothing unusual - I, myself, have been asked out on dates where the person asking was being extremely vague - usually it was just something casual like 'let us go to the cinema' or 'let us go grab a drink' and that is normally what my friends say when they want to hang out. Sometimes misunderstandings like this one will happen and it can be very awkward indeed, but at least I do think it is perfectly normal.
I've had this happen a few times, with both sexes. The one that really stands out happened a few years ago and although it wasn't a same-sex "date," it's almost always a very awkward situation regardless.
I ran into a guy I went to high school with at a restaurant whom I hadn't seen in ages. We exchanged numbers and planned to hang out and catch up. He arrived at my house one afternoon, picked me up and we went to our old school where we just kind of walked around the grounds and talked about our memories there. Then he drove me to an old abandoned church lot (?!) and started off by saying, "Isn't this a great place to make out?" I was taken aback and brushed it off until he got uncomfortably close to me and said it again. I told him I had a boyfriend, which I did, and the "date" ended shortly thereafter when he repeatedly begged and pleaded for me to kiss him. I didn't and we had one hell of an awkward ride back to my house.
I was really confused when I got home because I don't know if I had somehow lead him on (we'd been strictly friends in school) and also, his idea of a date was very odd.
Anyway, it's normal, OP. Sometimes when straight people are hit on by members of the same sex they can think that it's something about them that made them seem gay, but it usually just means that you're attractive or have a great personality. Take it as a compliment.
This reminds me of a time that I guy I only considered a friend invited me to his house to smoke opium and turned on that cheesy Pirates of the Caribbean porn and begged me to suck his dick. So tacky.. Talk about an awkward ride home. It didn't help that he played oldies on the radio.
The second part of the date was poorly planned but I think that guy probably had a big crush on you in school and thought you might have felt the same, I think he was probably a pretty innocent guy who really liked you but didn't know how to deal with it. If it makes you feel any better when he went home he probably cried and masturbated at the same time.
Too bad for him, he sounds creepy. Driving to an abandoned church lot without her consent to make out is quite presumptuous and not very nice. Regardless of how awkward the ride home was I have no pity for this guy and I'm so happy that he did not try to push the issue.
No, they were mostly just bi or bi curious drunks. Most full on lesbians can tell I'm straight. Although I did once have this big half German dyke follow me into a public bathroom, grab me and kiss me when I was drunk. The joke was on her though because I had literally just vomited in a bathroom stall. Bad things tend to happen when one is over intoxicated.
I have had the same problem.... but then i realized he didnt ask me out on a date he actually said "would you like to watch me masturbate"
I think that it can be normal for one not to realize that another is asking them out...they can do so in peculiar ways...I once had a girl (a very pretty one, at that) that challenged me to a round of Putt-Putt golf...me, being the competetive type, focused far more on beating her on the course than on what, when I later thought about it...going home alone...she was actually doing...trying to find out about me...she was truly interested until she realized that I was overly competetive...and said good bye right there...I wonder what might have been...